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Hello world,

In the so called new normal where COVID-19 is rolling over all screen around the world, we must not forget to pay sufficient attention to ourselves and love once. From my side I went to do some research which I am sharing in this blog item. I do hope that you as reader and follower can find yourself in the different circumstances. I wish you happy reading. It’s all about you yourself and your environment.


If you were raised by parents who continually told you what a good person you were, who loved you, encouraged you, supported you, and believed in you, no matter what you did or didn’t do, you would grow up with the belief that you were a good and valuable person. By the age of three, this belief would lock in and become a fundamental part of the way you view yourself in relation to your world. Thereafter, no matter what happens to you, you would hold to this belief. It would become your reality.

If you were raised by parents who did not know how powerful their words and behaviors could be in shaping your personality, they could very easily have used destructive criticism, disapproval, and physical or emotional punishment to discipline or control you. When a child is continually criticized at an early age, he soon concludes that there is something wrong with him. He doesn’t understand why it is that he is being criticized or punished, but he assumes that his parents know the truth about him, and that he deserves it. He begins to feel that he is not valuable or lovable. He is not worth very much. He must therefore be worthless.

Almost all personality problems in adolescence and adulthood are rooted in what psychologists refer to as love withheld. The child needs love like roses need rain. When children feel unloved, they feel unsafe and insecure. They think, “I’m not good enough.” They begin to engage in compensatory behaviors to make up for this inner anxiety. This sense of love deprivation is manifested in misbehavior, personality problems, bursts of anger, depression, hopelessness, lack of ambition, and problems with people and relationships.


The child is born with no fears, except those of falling and loud noises. All other fears have to be taught to the child as he or she grows up.

The two major fears we all develop are the fear of failure or loss and the fear of criticism or rejection. We begin to learn the fear of failure if we are continually criticized and punished when we try some- thing new or different. We are shouted at and told, “No! Get away from there! Stop that! Put that down!” Physical punishment and the withholding of love, possibilities that scare us and make us feel insecure, often accompany these shouts and criticisms.

We soon begin to believe that we are too small, too weak, incompetent, inadequate, and incapable of doing anything new or different. We express this feeling with the words, “I can’t, I can’t, I can’t.” Whenever we think about doing something new or challenging, we automatically respond with feelings of fear, trembling, and a churning stomach. We react exactly as if we are afraid of getting a spanking. We say, “I can’t” over and over.

The fear of failure is the primary reason for failure in adult life. As the result of destructive criticism in childhood, we hold ourselves back as adults. We sell ourselves short. We quit before we even try the first time. Instead of using our amazing minds to figure out how to get what we want, we use our reasoning ability to create reasons why we can’t, and why the things we want are not possible for us.


The second major fear that holds us back, undermines our confidence, and destroys our desire for a happy life is the fear of rejection, and its expression, criticism. This emotion is learned in early childhood as the result of our parents expressing disapproval of us whenever we do something they don’t like, or don’t do something that they expect. As a result of our displeasing them, they become angry and withdraw the love and approval we need so much as children.

The fear of being unloved and alone is so traumatic for a child that she soon conforms her behavior to do whatever she thinks her parents will approve of. She loses her spontaneity and uniqueness. She begins to think, “I have to! I have to! I have to!” She concludes, “I have to do whatever Mommy and Daddy want me to, or they won’t love me, and I’ll be all alone!”


As an adult, a child raised with what is called “conditional love” (as opposed to unconditional love, the greatest gift one person can give to another) becomes hypersensitive to the opinions of others. In its extreme form, he cannot do anything if there is the slightest chance that someone else may not approve. He projects his childhood relationship with his parents onto the important people in his adult life—spouse, boss, relatives, friends, authority figures—and tries desperately to earn their approval, or at least not lose it.

The fears of failure and rejection, caused by destructive criticism in early childhood, are the root causes of most of our unhappiness and anxiety as adults. We feel, “I can’t!” or “I have to!” continually. The worst feeling is when we feel, “I can’t, but I have to!” or “I have to, but I can’t!”

We want to do something, but we are afraid of failure or loss, or if we are not afraid of loss, we are afraid of disapproval. We want to do something to improve our lives, at work or at home, but we are afraid that we may fail, or that someone else may criticize us, or both.

For most people, their fears govern their lives. Everything they do is organized around avoiding failure or criticism. They think continually about playing it safe, rather than striving for their goals. They seek security rather than opportunity.


Once an author named by Arthur Gordon approached Thomas J. Watson Sr., the founder of IBM, and asked him how he could succeed faster as a writer. Thomas J. Watson, one of the giants of American business, replied with these profound words: “If you want to be successful faster, you must double your rate of failure. Success lies on the far side of failure.”

The fact is that the more you have already failed, the more likely it is you are on the verge of great success. Your failures have prepared you to succeed. This is why a streak of good luck seems to follow a streak of bad luck. When in doubt, “double your rate of failure.  ”The more things you try, the more likely you are to triumph. You overcome your fears only by doing the thing you fear until the fear has no more control over you.



Everything you know about yourself, all your beliefs, are recorded on the hard drive of your personality, in your self-concept. Your self-concept precedes and predicts your levels of performance and effectiveness in everything you do. Because of the law of correspondence, you always behave on the outside in a manner consistent with your self-concept on the inside. All improvement in your life therefore begins with an improvement in your self-concept.

You have an overall self-concept that is made up of all your beliefs about yourself and your abilities. This bundle of beliefs includes all the experiences, decisions, successes, failures, ideas, information, emotions, and opinions of your life up to now. This general self-concept determines how and what you think and feel about yourself, and measures how well you are doing in general.


You have a series of “mini-self-concepts” as well. These mini-self- concepts combine to make up your overall self-concept. You have a self-concept for every area of your life that you consider important. This mini-self-concept determines how you think, feel, and perform in that area.

For example, you have a self-concept for how healthy and fit you are, and how much you eat or exercise. You have a self-concept for how likable and popular you are with others, especially with members of the opposite sex. You have a self-concept for what kind of a spouse or parent you are, for how good a friend you are to your friends, how smart you are, and how well you learn. You have a self- concept for every sport you play, and for every activity you engage in, including how well you drive your car.

You have a self-concept for how well you do your work, and for how well you do each part of your work. You have a self- concept for how much money you make and how well you save and invest it. This is a critical area. The fact is that you can never earn much more or less than your self-concept level of income. If you want to make more money, you have to change your beliefs about yourself relative to income and money. 


In every case, if you want to change your performance and your results in any area of your life, you have to change your self- concept—or your beliefs about yourself—for that area. Fortunately, your beliefs are largely subjective. They are not always based on facts. Instead, they are based largely on information you have taken in and accepted as true, sometimes with very little evidence or proof.

The very worst beliefs you can have are self-limiting beliefs of any kind. These are beliefs about yourself that cause you to feel somehow limited or deficient in a particular area. These beliefs are seldom true, but if you accept them as valid estimates of your ability, they become true for you, exactly as if they were correct.

The starting point of unlocking your potential, and accomplishing more than you ever have before, is for you to challenge your self- limiting beliefs. You begin this process of freeing yourself from self-limiting beliefs by imagining that, whatever they are, they are completely untrue. Imagine for the moment that you have no limitations on your abilities at all. Imagine that you could be, do, or have anything you really wanted in life. Imagine that your potential is unlimited in any way. For example, imagine that you could be earning twice as much as you are earning today. Imagine that you could be living in a bigger house, driving a better car, and enjoying a more expensive lifestyle.

Imagine that you have the ability to be one of the top people in your field. Imagine that you are one of the most popular, powerful, and persuasive personalities in your social and business world. Imagine that you are calm, confident, and unafraid of anything. Imagine that you could set and achieve any goal you put your mind to. This is how you begin changing your thinking and changing your life.

The starting point of eliminating your fears, and releasing your potential, is to reprogram your mental hard drive with new, positive, constructive, and courageous beliefs about yourself and your future. I really hope that you learned something more now you have read this blog.

Feel free to drop me your comments and maybe your very own COVID-19 lifestyle experiences. It will be highly appreciated. Thank you in advanced. Stay Safe and Blessings.



Busy People Get Things Succesfully Done? WHY?


Look at your very own environment and ask yourself the question why some people can accomplish so much things and other not even one thing. At work at home well it doesn’t really matter, but they are doing it. At the other hand you will surely realize that some people are complaining steady about their work load etc. They are keeping their self, running in circles.

For example take a look at a one parent person, who is working at different locations to then take care of their children and normal house holding. Believe me they are able to keep this all together somehow. People like this are thinking and planning straight forward and they are capable enough to run their things. Is it that they are doing something or not doing anything. Clear the answer is both.

These kind of successful persons are in action to get their things done properly. They don’t have time to complain and make excuses or procrastinate.

Let me share some  Factors That Kill Productivity

Some people never get their stuff done? Unproductive people I call them :

  1. They Lack interest or energy.
  2. They suffer from a poor work ethic.
  3. They Lack organization.
  4. They are easily overwhelmed — and panic.
  5. They Start things, but never finish them.
  6. They Procrastinate.
  7. They Spend time worrying rather than working.
  8. They constantly complain.
  9. They are easily distracted.
  10. They Look over their shoulder — and cover their behind.
  11. They Play politics.
  12. They Fight change.
  13. They Resist learning.
  14. They Fear making a mistake.
  15. They fail to make decisions.
  16. They reinvent the wheel.
  17. They Demand perfection of themselves.
  18. They fail to set deadlines.

Here is a listing of Traits/Characteristics of Highly Productive Persons/People:

If you want something done ask a busy person how. These group of productive people are the following

Ambitious.  They Believe there’s no time like the present.

Self-confident. They Are battle-tested. They believe that “If I did it once, I can do it again.”

Single-minded. They Know what matters most and are relentless in pursuit of those priorities.

Goal-oriented.  They Establish fixed deadlines instead of going with the flow. They know that Parkinson’s Law holds true — “Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.”

Forward thinking. They Prepare in the morning; reflect at night.

Focused. They Don’t allow themselves to be disrupted or sidetracked by others’ priorities.

Trusting. They Do things that matter to them and find ways to get the rest of it done.

Action-oriented. They Rarely complain. They’re too busy getting things done.

Positive. They Don’t let obstacles get in their way. When they confront a barrier, they find a way around it.

Accountable. They Don’t make excuses or cast blame. They know their mission, accept responsibility, and are determined to get it done.

Modest. They Don’t spend time promoting their accomplishments. They know that results speak for themselves.

Resourceful. They Make use of dead time rather than letting valuable minutes fritter away.

Organized. They Rarely waste time reinventing the wheel, repeating mistakes, or looking for misplaced items.

Project-oriented. They Say “no” to one idea so they can say “yes” to another.

Decisive. They Make bold decisions. When you do nothing, nothing happens.

Realistic. They Strive for excellence rather than perfection.

Check for yourself if your habits are helping or hurting your productivity activities. If so start to change your inside.

In life you will reach moments of challenges. You will be confronted with big fear or maybe asked to do things beyond your limits. As this take place, always remember that getting things done is as much a mindset as it is. If you start spending time and start worrying about the future you are stressing yourself out, you are not only wasting expensive time, you are helping yourself to create a powerful hurricane in your mind that makes it very tough to succeed. The real fact is, just as a pep talk inspires you to climb new heights, chronic negativity is taking over and will drag you down in the valley. Sometime people work very hard to make their lives even harder.

On the off chance that you need to complete more stuff, you can! It won’t occur by doing things a similar way. It’ll require a purposeful exertion to grasp new propensities that push you forward and to take out conduct that is keeping you down. The truth of the matter is, the main thing holding you up is yourself. It doesn’t take a mind specialist to make sense of how to turn out to be increasingly profitable. You simply need to dedicate yourself to it.

Do You Get More Things Done after reading this. Just let me know! During this CORONA PERIOD you will have to become more productive and think out of the box.



Ten Things That Will Change Your Life[style]


Many times we put our eyes on the big things out there. But the fact remains that as determined as we are to make significant changes and do big things, we can only reach that height of big things until we fix some small items in place.

Life has a lot of experiences, and only if we gather the right experiences, we will not get the best out of what we do.

The constant thing about life is change. No matter what you do, you cannot avoid change. The more we resist change, the more miserable our life becomes. And to give heed to change, we should ensure we plan it and take it gradually as our routine can permit.

We can, however, not avoid the unexpected from happening, but what we can do is, set a sample of what we want for ourselves when the unexpected does happen.

This is where our power of choice comes in, using this power of choice allows us to change our life. And that is the fulcrum of what we are going to be talking about today—using your power of choice to craft out something beautiful for our lives.

1. Make your bed daily

A lot of interpretations can be made from our little actions daily. Making your bed and how you make it can be one of the ways to tell how organized you are.

Many may want to trivialize this act, but making your bed will set you to the next task and the next after that, and you will be bubbling with fulfillment by the end of the day. But it all begins from you doing what is right immediately you get up from the bed.

As soon as you make your bed (clean your bed), the next thing to do is clean yourself. Wash your mouth and have your bath.

Even if you are not going out or you don’t have an appointment to catch, having your bath daily in the morning goes a long way to increase your productivity. Take your time to clean yourself.

2. Read the news

This is another little thing that could affect you most positively or negatively possible. Follow the news and know what is happening around you.

As little as it is, listening to the news can keep you informed about the kinds of jobs that are available, the places you should not visit, and most importantly, you get information that gives you talking rights when around people.

3. Cut Posters in your room

Having a motivational poster in your room is very important; it improves your success rate. It can be the only force that makes you continue reading that book when you are about to stop. You can put up your resolution to finish a book every week on your doorpost.

No matter how trivial it looks but that motivational poster helps you to stay motivated and to get rid of procrastination.

4. Clear youR To Do

To-do lists are usually written to guide you on what to do daily. If you have good things listed out, completing them daily will go a long way to improve every aspect of your life and can cause a drastic change. When you clear your to-do every day, it helps you assess yourself and decide your next move.

Hence you should ensure that your To-Do is cleared before you retire to bed daily. This way, you set yourself up for progress.

5. Exercise daily

The magic behind exercises comes when you are faithful to it. You tend to see its effect after being consistent for at least 21 days. Exercises will help reduce your stress level. Also, during exercise, your body will secret hormones that will help your body relax and prepare it for the day’s activities.

Exercising in the morning increases your chances of completing your To-do listings, thereby improving your productivity. No matter how busy you are, at least go for a 10 minutes walk.

6. Set your alarm 1 hour early

This trick is simple; if it has been difficult for you to get up at a particular time, then you should learn to set your alarm 1 hour before the time you want to wake up. This way, when the first alarm wakes you, you sleep back. Then the second alarm will have more effect, and then your sleep may not be profound.

Sleep can be refreshing sometimes that it can make you miss your appointment.

7. Volunteer

Find a cause you are passionate about and spend time volunteering. You can never experience true acts of kindness until you learn out to give your time and money for something you are passionate about with the expectation of nothing in return.

8. Grow a garden

Nurturing plants teaches patience. Not only will gardening give you something to do, but you’ll also be contributing to your environment. Imagine waking up, looking out your window, and seeing beautiful flowers and plants. You feel pride when you know that you are responsible for such a beautiful environment.

9. Reply all your mails

Sometimes, our mailbox can tell how lazy we are, especially if you accumulate your mails without responding to them. Unimportant emails should not be left unattended to, open them, read them, and take the necessary action.

Ensure that you do not sleep without attending to all your mails, even if you can’t get the information being asked for immediately, you can fix that on your To-Do for the next day.

10. Drink a glass of water before and after sleep

Water is good and can be used when thirsty. But it can also be used as a therapy. Taking water before bedtime has a way of reducing your stress level, and when you wake up, it helps you improve metabolism.

It is free, in your reach and will cost you nothing to take a stroll to the refrigerator before and after sleep.

Small activities go a long way to how we handle big things. Hence we mustn’t lose the touch of these little things; the more we are perfect in them, the more productive we become.

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It’s because they continuously surround themselves with H.A.T.E.R.S = (Having Anger Towards Everyone Reaching Success) 🤬 and then wonder why they are P.O.O.R = (Passing Over Opportunity Repeatedly) 🤕 and B.R.O.K.E. = (Being Ridiculous Outlawing Knowledge Everyday) 🤦‍♀️

You can’t have a P.R.O.J.E.C.T.S. (People Relying On Just Enough Cash To Survive) type of mindset. You have to be willing to make that C.H.A.N.G.E = (Choosing Happiness And Never Giving Excuses) 🤓 and exercise true F.A.I.T.H (Finding Answers In The Heart) 🤗 along with H.O.P.E (Having Only Positive Expectations) to make that P.U.S.H (Persistent Until Something Happens) 😎



Five interesting developments in tech for 2020


Change is a constant factor in the fast-moving world of technology. New products and trends come and go so fast that it is difficult to keep up with, but if an organization wants to avoid the risk of falling behind, it is a must to keep abreast of current developments.

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1. Super-fast technology at your fingertips At
speeds up to 100 times higher than its predecessor, 5G will be the second largest evolution in the telecom industry. It promises super-fast download speeds and a lower latency. However, the arrival of 5G also means that companies must prepare for the implementation of this technology both in the workplace and beyond.
Smartphones bring the possibilities of 5G directly within reach. It is therefore expected that we can expect a doubling when it comes to the smartphone as a favorite device in the workplace. And as the adaptation and value of flexible devices such as the smartphone increase, so too will the demand for products to better protect these devices.
Organizations will have to adapt the workplace and work floor to the modern needs of employees in order to facilitate a seamless experience for various devices for them.

2. Security remains a priority
2019 After the introduction of the GDPR in 2018, the focus was on data protection. This also brought the debate about cyber security to the forefront, encouraging both organizations and consumers to pay more attention to their personal data. Yet cyber security is often limited to a silo, separate from the physical security of data, while the two are nevertheless inextricably linked.
To illustrate, all you have to do is look at the example of Heathrow Airport in the UK. They received a fine of no less than 120,000 pounds last October after a staff member lost a USB stick that was later found by a citizen. This example shows that a seemingly small error can have large and expensive consequences. A lost USB stick or lost smartphone can already be enough to expose the confidential data of an organization. In 2020, the focus on combining cyber and physical security will grow.

3. Sustainability is gaining importance
In the past year we have seen enough examples of greenwashing and sustainability commitments that have not been met. However, sustainability will continue to gain in importance in 2020. The changing wishes of customers require companies to take action in all different areas.
Resellers and cooperation partners demand transparency in the field of sustainability from their suppliers. After all, every organization will set high standards for its environmental policy across the board.
As a small organization, it is easier to set up a short supply chain for sustainability, but as the size of the company grows, it can become difficult to keep all levels green. It is the responsibility of the organization to encourage this change and to be transparent in this. After all, customers appreciate and expect this from organizations. Sustainability is no longer just a USP, it will become a requirement in 2020.

4. Meeting the needs of the next generation
Flexible and remote work plays an essential role in 2020. Gen Z is entering the workplace and the arrival of this new generation will also change the role of technology. This new generation will incorporate the available technologies and policies employers pursue in their choice to get started. Being connected and flexible therefore becomes essential in recruiting the right talent. Think of linked functionalities on the shop floor, companies need hardware that has cloud capability and match the pace of the changing work ecosystem. This way, the right docking station can easily let an employee synchronize his devices and gadgets. Whereas a laptop replaced the fixed PC in ease of use at the time, the docking station will make a desk full of cables superfluous.

5. The role of the IT supplier is changing
Because both large and small organizations are turning to leaner models and processes to achieve optimum business efficiency, the amount of time and budget available for training and development can be limited. If fewer people are needed to do more, this means that companies will increasingly rely on their IT suppliers to train and guide them with the most suitable technology for integration into and outside the workplace. Companies that purchase IT devices and accessories for the workplace face an overwhelming possibility of choices that can ultimately be quite confusing.
In 2020 we will increasingly see existing IT suppliers as an extension of the organization. They provide valuable advice and help companies determine how technology can best add value to their activities.


Improve by one percent at a time


For people who would like to improve on a personal level, there is a widely used Japanese method: Kaizen. Kaizen revolves around the small steps that must be taken to realize the biggest plans. AllTopStartup founder Thomas Oppong puts it this way: “Getting one percent better every day is a simple, practical way to achieve big goals.”

Kaizen spread to the rest of the world thanks to American experts such as Frank Bunker Gilbreth and Frederick Winslow Taylor. They were already at the forefront of research into effective work in the 1920s and their knowledge was the basis for Kaizen. In post-war Japan, a way was sought to increase the effectiveness of employees. This way was found in the idea of ​​Kaizen, freely translated: good change, or continuous improvement.

More than just improvement

Kaizen has a goal that goes beyond just improvement. It is a daily activity and a process that can make people more human. It eliminates unnecessary work and teaches people to see wastes and remove them. A commonly used definition is ‘disassembly and reassembly in a better way’. What is taken apart is usually a process, system, or service in a company. In personal development, an action or habit will be reassembled.


Continuous improvement works by sticking to three conditions. Set a goal for one percent improvement. Decide how often you will work on the goal and stick to that plan, focus on the one percent improvement. Stay with this process until you reach the end goal. By not focusing on the end goal but on the one percent goal, improvement can be achieved in an easily accessible manner. By working in small steps you build a solid foundation for a great future.




You undoubtedly have thousands of future plans in your head. About the things you still have to do, the goals you want to achieve and the people you want to share your life with. But sometimes it’s true that you do not have the time to do everything …  or maybe this just seems like that. Have you ever thought that you are only wasting your time and life?

It may be that you invest your time in things that are not necessary  or that require too much of your time without you realizing this. Do you really not have enough time or do you simply spend your time on things that lead nowhere? Read on and find out.

“The past has fled, that what will come is absent, but the present is yours.”

Arabian saying-

1. You invest your time in something that yields nothing

You need moments where you allow yourself some distraction and where you release yourself from your professional responsibilities. However, if you spend most of your time on “distraction,” you will eventually feel like you have not done anything all day. Therefore ensure a balance between work and distraction. Choose activities that really mean something and that you have something to offer and reduce activities that do not.

Activities that give you the feeling that you are wasting your life include excessive alcohol use, hours in front of the television and always immersing yourself in social media. If you want to be with your friends, then look for an alternative. For example, go camping or cook together and simply spend time together. Choose activities that will help you improve your relationships and lead to the life you want.

2. You are unable to improve your skills

People are programmed to learn new things. One way to waste your life is by not giving yourself the chance to learn and grow as much as possible . Do you remember what we said about investing your time in activities that do not give you anything? Well, an excellent alternative is to use that time for something constructive, such as doing thinking games or teaching yourself a new skill.

Put your brain to work and challenge yourself as much as possible. Doing games like crossword puzzles and sodoku will stimulate your brain and it will not be long before you are addicted to the mental challenge they offer you. Another great alternative to help your mind develop is by learning new skills, from learning to play an instrument to learning a new language. Do you prefer something that costs less effort? Then simply read a book.

“Learning how to learn is the most important skill for education and this should be explained during the very first lessons.”

-John Seymour-

3. You have negative conversations

Negative conversations are terrible time wasted. And if you yourself are the subject of the negative conversation, then this is even worse. Keep in mind that what you think becomes reality. Are you aware of what you say every time you lose out in negativity during a conversation or during your daily activities? Or how nice you are against yourself? When you are faced with a challenge and have already given up in your mind, failure is almost inevitable.


Of course it is not easy to break this habit, because we are not necessarily aware that we have this habit at all. What you have to do is to keep an eye on what you are saying and that way you will gradually change the message you send out. Also distracting and engaging your thoughts will help you to reduce those negative messages.

4. You do not make plans for the future

How do you see yourself in ten years? What would you like to be concerned with at this point in your life? With what tools do you see yourself doing this? Although you certainly should not forget to live in the present moment , the future should not be forgotten. Setting goals motivates you to move on and helps you avoid wasting your life and passing it away meaninglessly. Goals allow you to carve out a path and make you feel as if there is something you are working towards to improve and develop yourself.

“The future has many names. He is unreachable for the weak. He is unknown to the anxious. He is an opportunity for the brave. “

-Victor Hugo-

Many people almost live like zombies. They wake up in the morning, eat something, go to work and return home in the evening. Every day is the same and when they finally make time to reflect on their lives, they feel empty. This happens because they do not set goals for themselves.

Focus on one or two important goals and then on some less important ones . How about joining the Iron man in 2030? This triathlon provides even the best athletes with a challenge and is an admirable goal for anyone. Once you have established the larger goal for yourself, you can focus on less important short-term goals. This year you will complete a half marathon and next year a complete and so on.

Do not even give yourself the chance to waste your life. Take advantage of everything around you so that you can grow and improve. The best thing you can do is live life to the fullest; you can never change the past.