{"id":1603,"date":"2020-09-21T14:57:41","date_gmt":"2020-09-21T14:57:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogzynergy.com\/bz\/?p=1603"},"modified":"2020-09-21T14:57:42","modified_gmt":"2020-09-21T14:57:42","slug":"seven-7-differences-between-happy-and-unhappy-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogzynergy.com\/bz\/index.php\/2020\/09\/21\/seven-7-differences-between-happy-and-unhappy-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Seven (7) Differences between happy and unhappy relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\"Facebook\"<\/a>\"twitter\"<\/a>\"reddit\"<\/a>\"pinterest\"<\/a>\"linkedin\"<\/a>\"mail\"<\/a>\n
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Happy relationships are no accident.\u00a0Neither are unhappy relationships.\u00a0They are the result of conscious choices:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1 – Love and trust are handled differently\nfrom unhappy relationships.
\n2 – There is more depth and more is shared.
\n3 – Both partners are emotionally independent and appreciate this in each\nother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you have to end your relationship\nimmediately in case of relationship problems? No Fortunately not!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learn from the lessons of happy relationships\nand apply them to avoid a lot of relationship problems.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just read the comments below …<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How do you get a happy\nrelationship with someone else?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is a Happy Relationship? Very\nsimple, that is a relationship that gives you energy and where you and the\nother feel good. The secret to a happy relationship is to stay yourself\nand let the other person remain themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How do you get a happy relationship? By\nworking on it. But\u2026 you have to know very well if you have the right\npartner to do that. You cannot fly with a boat, so the choice of your\nrelationship partner is very important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happy without a\nrelationship or happier with a relationship?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Better happy without a relationship than not\nhappy while you are in a relationship, isn’t it? In a happy relationship\nyou don’t test each other, you trust and support each other. If not, then\nyou may be better off without the other. You don’t have to have a huge\nspiritual relationship, but love and trust do have to be there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These pillars of a relationship always remain\nimportant, whether you are in a long relationship or a short relationship with\nsomeone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are the seven TOP tips for a happy\nrelationship:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Love makes for a\nhappy relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In unhealthy relationships, love is a bargaining chip: \u201cI only\nlove you if you do this<\/em> for me. And\nwhen it<\/em> does, I hate\nyou. “<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love is a means to an end, which is to gain\ncontrol over the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately, control and happiness are at\nodds with each other. So trying to get control in your relationship (by\ntrying to control the other) and being happy in your relationship don’t usually\ngo together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example: As long as you do what the other\nwants, there is love. And otherwise there is the opposite: anger,\naversion, jealousy or envy. So love is very limited and usually just a\nsnapshot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Set conditions for\nyour happiness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In happy relationships, few conditions are placed on\nlove. “I love you just the way you are.” Or: “As long\nas you do what makes you happy, I’m too<\/em> happy.” This\nallows love to grow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And love only grows in trust, not in control,\nbecause control is based more on fear and fear hooks on love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So let go of control:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The more you feel that the other person loves\nyou the way you are, the more you can be yourself – and the more love you can\ngive back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. No happy\nrelationships without trust.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is little trust in unhappy relationships. Whenever\nyou are hurt by the other person’s behavior, trust diminishes. In the end\nyou take everything<\/em> the\nother says with a grain of salt. Without trust there is no love, depth,\nintimacy or understanding, so the relationship becomes increasingly distant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People in happy relationships trust each other\nblindly. They know exactly what they can do for each other. Perhaps\nit took a long time for this confidence to be established. But once\npresent, it continues to feed the relationship with positive energy. You\nknow that the other person wants the best for you – and vice versa of course.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trust is the most important ingredient to a\nhappy relationship, be it a relationship with your partner, with your friends\nor with colleagues. Trust is everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Depth is necessary\nfor every relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In less good relationships communication is\nsuperficial. You never know what is really<\/em> on the\nother’s mind – or you don’t feel the need to tell them what’s on your mind<\/em> . As a result, conversations never\nget to the core: what someone really thinks or feels. There is a lot of\ntalk about situations (what messages have been done, what the weather forecast\nis), but little about deeper feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In happy relationships, that depth is\nthere. There is talk about what really concerns the other. When you\nshare the bed, you are physically intimate. When you share feelings, you\nare emotionally intimate. Without intimacy, there is only distance. Depth\nis essential to avoid that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Sharing makes happy\nrelationships even better.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Little is shared in superficial\nrelationships. It seems as if everyone leads their own life and only lives\ntogether by chance. Interests are not shared, experiences are not\nexchanged and ideas are not discussed. The relationship resembles two\nislands with a very long bridge in between. You can only share by\ncrossing. But usually that is a bridge too far. Everyone stays on\ntheir own island …<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In happy relationships, a lot is shared (not\neverything, as there may be a part that you would rather share with others or\nkeep to yourself). That sharing creates a bond. Sharing is giving\nsomething away and then receiving it twice back. As they say:\n“Sharing is caring.” Two islands have converged …<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Laughter is healthy\nfor any relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is little laughter in bad relationships. Everything\nis heavy and serious. There is usually no ability to put things into\nperspective. Sometimes people escape this\nby seeking pleasure outside of<\/em> the\nrelationship. “She’s always so serious, I just want to have fun with\nmy friends.” Or: “He sees everything so black, at least with my\nbest friend I can laugh …”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happy relationships do involve a lot of laughter. Laughing\ntogether – even if it’s just about your own shortcomings – is so\nliberating! What do you do when you’ve had a rough day? Sometimes you\njust don’t feel like talking about it. Then you feel better at a comedy or\na pillow fight. A day without laughter is a day wasted. Laughter\nprovides light, warmth and relaxation. Smile, damn!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Without\nindependence there is only dependence.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In difficult relationships there is always some form of\ndependence. One partner is dependent on the other. It doesn’t even\nhave to be financial dependence. More often it is an emotional<\/em> dependence. It’s as if one of the\ntwo cares less about what the other does. The person who has the least to\nlose if the relationship ends is the one who determines the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In healthy relationships there is equality. Two people\ndecide: \u201cWe feel fine without each other, but even better\ntogether. We choose<\/em> to be\ntogether. Not out of necessity or poverty, but out of love. \u201d Both\npeople value each other and do not allow one to prevail or determine the\nrelationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Appreciation is\nnecessary for all happy relationships.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In bad relationships, the focus is very much on what the partner\nis doing wrong. “I say it every time, but you never get it<\/em> right!” Or: “When will I\nget through to you?” Since the focus is on the other\nperson ‘s shortcomings<\/em> , there is a lot\nof dissatisfaction. More attention is paid to what is not<\/em> there than to what is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happy couples appreciate each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1 – You know that the other is not perfect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2 – You have no desire to change him or her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3 – You forget the small mistakes and focus on\nwhat you do appreciate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You cannot appreciate someone until you stop\nfocusing on their flaws. That does not only apply to your relationship,\nbut also to yourself!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you want a happy\nrelationship with other people?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

With your partner, or with your family,\nfriends or colleagues?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then you need more insight – and you also need to work on\nyourself. Because a good relationship always starts with a good\nrelationship with yourself<\/em> .<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To your success.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep your relation moving.<\/p>\n\"Facebook\"<\/a>\"twitter\"<\/a>\"reddit\"<\/a>\"pinterest\"<\/a>\"linkedin\"<\/a>\"mail\"<\/a>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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