Whether it’s with a friend, a colleague or with a stranger, having a conflict with someone is never great. Yet you can handle this in a certain way. It may be that you are expressing a comment or that you feel that you have been treated unfairly. Anyway, a conflict is annoying and must therefore be resolved, if possible.
1. Look at both sides
In the heat of the fight this may be difficult, but at a certain moment try to look at the other side. If necessary, let it rest for a while and look at the other side if you have calmed down. Maybe that other person does not mean it at all, or there is a kernel of truth in what the other person says. Blaming somebody else for something because you are so stubborn to look at the situation from another side is not the solution.
2. What is your contribution?
Also be honest with yourself. Have you perhaps said or done something that you actually know that you could not do? Give it to yourself honestly. Everybody says something that was not meant afterwards and it is only strong to admit this afterwards.
3. Add water to the wine
If you have looked at the situation from both sides, it might be easier to add water to the wine. Perhaps you can indicate that you understand the other person’s point of view and you can indicate that you would like to come together in a way that is acceptable to both parties. The fact that you already indicate that you understand the other person often also makes you understand the other person, so that he or she will also be prepared to water more quickly with the wine.
4. Wrong timing
It can also be natural that the timing was completely wrong. Maybe you had a bad day so you made a certain comment or something went wrong. Or maybe the other person was tired or stressed, which led to a conflict. We are all human beings and knowing this can also resolve a conflict faster. Of course it is no excuse to be ugly to each other, but we might just understand each other a bit more.
5. Talk to each other
Are you calmed? Then look for a moment to talk to each other. Let each other speak out, also look at what the other person says from the other side and respond calmly and respectfully to each other. So do not blame each other for everything, but come up with solutions and, for example, indicate how it could be prevented a next time.
