We all sometimes get in our way and hinder our growth. You want to leave these 5 habits behind.
1. Constantly comparing yourself to others
We all do it and it doesn’t help us move forward. Constantly comparing yourself to others leads to a lot of things, but not happiness.
Comparing yourself leads to uncertainty, stress and discouragement.
I know that, because I often fall into that trap myself . We almost always compare ourselves to people who are more advanced than us . More successful, more attractive, more popular – you know it. And while you can use someone else’s success as inspiration and motivation to get started – it leads most people to feel like I’m not good enough .
A feeling that you are inferior and worthless – not nice. And here’s the problem: There’s always someone better than you in every area of your life .
Feel free to use the people around you as inspiration. But live from your own strength. You’re different from others, and that’s okay. Grant others their success, and work on your own story from your own strength. Because you know – this is your life, not the other’s life.
2. Constant Self-Doubt
Doubting yourself is like throwing boulders in front of you, only to drive over them with great effort and complain about the bumpy ride. If you just stop creating extra obstacles, the ride will be a lot smoother.
And I get it – I still do it myself regularly. Then I have big plans for the future that inspire me immensely, and at the same time I notice how the doubts arise. “Can I do this? Is my job good enough? Am I worth this?”
And while the drama that comes with it keeps life interesting in its own way, life runs a lot better if you dare to believe in yourself. Sometimes it’s just a matter of persevering, making yourself vulnerable and trusting your own strength.
Because maybe it goes wrong, maybe you go down hard. Fine – you’ll get over that. One thing is certain: if you don’t do anything, you won’t be able to make your dreams come true .
Build your confidence, prove to yourself in small steps that you can do more than you thought. There’s no reason to constantly doubt yourself – absolutely not.
3. Self-sabotage
When we feel like we’re not good enough—that we don’t deserve success—we begin to sabotage ourselves.
We procrastinate, become overly perfectionistic, make excuses and deliver half-work that never gets us where we want to be deep down.
By sabotaging yourself, you protect yourself from the responsibilities and new insecurities that come with success. At the same time, you know for sure that you will never make your dreams come true – .
4. Unnecessary Negativity
Negative thinking and talking doesn’t help anyone. Of course you can and must sometimes be critical – many things go wrong in the world and misplaced positivity does little to change this.
But unnecessary negativity drags you and everyone around you into a black hole full of whining and passivity . You will achieve nothing if you only focus on all the negatives. You won’t get ahead if you see flaws everywhere.
Focus your attention on the things that are going well. Direct your thoughts towards positivity. This way you make it easier to go through life positively and happily, making it easier for you to realize your dreams.
5. Crippling Perfectionism
You do want to start writing your first book – but you don’t want to start until you have a new laptop. And you don’t have the money for a new laptop now, so you can’t start on your book .
Do you recognize these kind of twists and turns? This is perfectionism in its purest form. You want the conditions to be perfect, you want your work to be perfect, you want everything to be the way you envision it. And only then will you feel comfortable enough to take action.
The problem, of course, is that the world doesn’t work that way . You should start with what you have and build momentum in small, daily steps. Embracing imperfection, accepting chaos, daring to be vulnerable – only then can you move forward.
Perfectionism is different from striving for quality . The first is neurotic, the second is often a good idea.
Grow over your obstacles
Do you hold yourself back because of too little self-confidence and too much procrastination? You are not alone and you can do something about it.
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