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IMPORTANT SIGNS THAT YOU ARE NOT LIVING FULLY..START MAKING CHANGES FOR 2019!!

You undoubtedly have thousands of future plans in your head. About the things you still have to do, the goals you want to achieve and the people you want to share your life with. But sometimes it’s true that you do not have the time to do everything … or maybe this just seems like that. Have you ever thought that you are only wasting your time and life?

It may be that you invest your time in things that are not necessary or that require too much of your time without you realizing this. Do you really not have enough time or do you simply spend your time on things that lead nowhere? Read on and find out.

“The past has fled, that what will come is absent, but the present is yours.”

Arabian saying-

1. You invest your time in something that yields nothing

You need moments where you allow yourself some distraction and where you release yourself from your professional responsibilities. However, if you spend most of your time on “distraction,” you will eventually feel like you have not done anything all day. Therefore ensure a balance between work and distraction. Choose activities that really mean something and that you have something to offer and reduce activities that do not.

Activities that give you the feeling that you are wasting your life include excessive alcohol use, hours in front of the television and always immersing yourself in social media. If you want to be with your friends, then look for an alternative. For example, go camping or cook together and simply spend time together. Choose activities that will help you improve your relationships and lead to the life you want.

2. You are unable to improve your skills

People are programmed to learn new things. One way to waste your life is by not giving yourself the chance to learn and grow as much as possible . Do you remember what we said about investing your time in activities that do not give you anything? Well, an excellent alternative is to use that time for something constructive, such as doing thinking games or teaching yourself a new skill.

Put your brain to work and challenge yourself as much as possible. Doing games like crossword puzzles and sodoku will stimulate your brain and it will not be long before you are addicted to the mental challenge they offer you. Another great alternative to help your mind develop is by learning new skills, from learning to play an instrument to learning a new language. Do you prefer something that costs less effort? Then simply read a book.

“Learning how to learn is the most important skill for education and this should be explained during the very first lessons.”

-John Seymour-

3. You have negative conversations

Negative conversations are terrible time wasted. And if you yourself are the subject of the negative conversation, then this is even worse. Keep in mind that what you think becomes reality. Are you aware of what you say every time you lose out in negativity during a conversation or during your daily activities? Or how nice you are against yourself? When you are faced with a challenge and have already given up in your mind, failure is almost inevitable.

Of course it is not easy to break this habit, because we are not necessarily aware that we have this habit at all. What you have to do is to keep an eye on what you are saying and that way you will gradually change the message you send out. Also distracting and engaging your thoughts will help you to reduce those negative messages.

4. You do not make plans for the future

How do you see yourself in ten years? What would you like to be concerned with at this point in your life? With what tools do you see yourself doing this? Although you certainly should not forget to live in the present moment , the future should not be forgotten. Setting goals motivates you to move on and helps you avoid wasting your life and passing it away meaninglessly. Goals allow you to carve out a path and make you feel as if there is something you are working towards to improve and develop yourself.

“The future has many names. He is unreachable for the weak. He is unknown to the anxious. He is an opportunity for the brave. “

-Victor Hugo-

Many people almost live like zombies. They wake up in the morning, eat something, go to work and return home in the evening. Every day is the same and when they finally make time to reflect on their lives, they feel empty. This happens because they do not set goals for themselves.

Focus on one or two important goals and then on some less important ones . How about joining the Iron man in 2030? This triathlon provides even the best athletes with a challenge and is an admirable goal for anyone. Once you have established the larger goal for yourself, you can focus on less important short-term goals. This year you will complete a half marathon and next year a complete and so on.

Do not even give yourself the chance to waste your life. Take advantage of everything around you so that you can grow and improve. The best thing you can do is live life to the fullest; you can never change the past.

MY NINE WAYS TO FIND/DISCOVER MORE PEACE

Everyone is bothered by it. From those days that you overflow with stress, that everything and everyone is just too busy and you prefer to crawl under a stone. After a normal working week or during work it can be difficult and before you realize it, you have handed out the first snail again. Emotions blur your decision making. The tension has to slip away from you, just how do you provide more peace and relaxation and how to ensure that it has a lasting effect?

Of course it is not fair if others are the victim of your chagrin. And you yourself do not become happier. Sometimes it seems that nothing helps. Holiday, weekly yoga sessions, massages. Nothing helps. Perhaps you even consider the doctor, because you come to rest so hard. The pressure in the 24-hour society is of course high. You want to get your business done at work. Often it is also pressure that we impose ourselves or that is imposed from home and we maintain an old pattern. Previously, for example, it was expected that everything could be better and career was very important. This is partly it, but it is what you demand of yourself. You may have received a deeply rooted perfectionism.

Yet it is true that we are all human and we are (unfortunately?) None of them perfect. Maybe that’s why it’s time to adjust your expectations a little and be a bit milder for yourself? We put nine tips in a row to get a bit to yourself. It should not be natural, but it is for your own good. We recommend applying it with some regularity, so that it brings relaxation that is permanent or at least easier to come back.

1. Space

Find the space to relax, but also give your limits at work or at the home front. The unrest that you feel is of course a signal that you need something. Dare to choose for yourself and that can be done in tig ways. For example, go dancing, horseback riding, walking, running, surfing and / or sauna. Take free. In other words, take care of time for yourself. It can also be coffee, tea, lunch or a game of pool with a friend. It is important to discharge.

2. Cry

It sounds like an open door, but we are all people with feelings. So pull back if necessary and find a place where you can just be human. Does it help to go to the forest or sit in the attic? Then do that. Too much tension is stuck in your body and that has to be removed. Just let the tears run free, without judging or thinking about what that will bring. It is just there and you can get rid of it better than being rich.

3. Feel

Do you find it difficult to allow emotions? Then learn to feel step by step. It is also better to feel than to worry. And worrying about those feelings is not good either, so just try to accept them. It is what it is. Easier said than done of course. We admit that, it does require some time and attention, but the creed is ‘not thinking but feeling’. Just try switching.

4. Breath

When we are tense, we often sit high in our breath. In other words, breathing quickly. Breathing often does not go beyond the diaphragm, whereas it is important to breathe in the stomach or even deeper. So you notice that you are in a hurry. Try to breathe calmly and deeply. Maybe it’s even good to sit down or just stop what you do. If only for a few seconds, just go back to yourself. Feel the cold as you breathe in and the warmth of your breath as you exhale. Follow him all the way to your belly. Will not this work immediately? No worries, will come naturally. Try to do this a number of times (per day). At the desk, on the toilet, outside, in the car or at the station, you name it. Breathing is something that you can always go back to. It can be a very powerful way to come to grief if there is room for it.

5. Focus

We are not all the same, but probably we all know the feeling that we are feeling unstable or that we feel that we have fallen off our pedestals. Sometimes it’s because of something someone said and you got a bit of a hit or it’s just busy around you, making it come your way. The emotion just grabs you by the scrubs and of course you do not feel like it. Then try to focus a moment on yourself or to perpetuate your energy. The one calls it earthen, the other back to the core, but actually it is bundling your own power. You stand or sit with your feet on the floor, breathe down as far as possible and follow the rhythm of your breathing. Also try to make contact with your heart and try to let love or peace flow. Imagine that you are completely compact. If you want to go one step further, do a body scan, feel the tension, try to let go. Then fill your body with white light. Relax.

6. Attitude

The body gets stuck due to a one-sided posture and / or overload. More and more people have neck, shoulder and back complaints. Especially in today’s culture where many people are confined to their desks and lean forward over our smartphone.
In fact, we would have to disconnect from our computer every half an hour. Yet people are always inclined to continue. Maybe such a kitchen timer or a little pause is not such a crazy idea yet? Or get that round of coffee? A Mensendieck therapist can also tell very well what a good posture is and what kind of exercises may be needed for relaxation. Often we are so conditioned that we unconsciously raise our shoulder (s), sit on our chair or hang out. What are you doing? Can it be more relaxed?

7. Pause

Busy busy busy. The work has to be finished, but if something is bad, it is the pause. In the past it was still commonplace that you had four breaks a day. Half an hour from your boss and half an hour from yourself. Not that crazy yet, and that takes fifteen minutes. Should actually be a sting. It is nevertheless a balance between work and relaxation. Even if you work at home. Often you get more done with a short break and you have a different view when you return to your workplace. Maybe still enter that lunch (together) instead of eating the sandwich for the computer? Of course you can also walk around. And do not be ashamed if you occasionally do a (relaxation) exercise at your workplace. The only one who can protect himself is you.

8. Structure

Provide structure. Only in the event of repetition can new behavior actually be tapped or changes can be experienced as lasting. Research shows that for real change more than two months is needed. Some people even say 21 days. Maybe three weeks is good to start with, but of course it is true that some tension has been building for years. Of course that is not gone at once. Actually it is just trial and error. So be gentle to yourself, be patient, but also have discipline. If it does not work one time, try again another time. Then it will most likely be better.

9. Help

Not everyone needs help, but sometimes it does not work or is difficult. The deep breathing stagnates, endless sports sessions work against and tension do not get lost. Do not be ashamed. It is, however, an idea to ask what it can be. Psychologists, mental coaches, mindfulness courses or just the masseur or physiotherapist. It does not exist for nothing. Of course, talking to friends can also purchase a series of self-help books. Tai Chi, silence or yoga retreats may also be an idea.

18 CLEAR IDEAS TO FIND YOUR PASSION TO MOVE HIGHER

here’s a big myth in our culture: that passion can only be spontaneous. You either love your job or you don’t. You either enjoy exercising or hate it. You are interested in reading books or you find them boring. That passion can’t be forced or created.

I disagree. Passion can be created. Even for things you don’t currently enjoy.

By tweaking the activities and pursuits you engage in, you can find a passion for anything. All it takes is a bit of patience and an open mind.

The benefit is that you end up loving the things you have to do anyways. Exercising, learning, studying, working and almost any pursuit can be made into a passion. And if you know how to do it, existing passions can be turned from mildly interesting to exciting. The skill of finding your passion is like turning up the dial for the amount of color you experience in life.Here are some ways to find your passion:

1. Get Curious – Curiosity is the basis of passion. Shake off your current understandings and begin from the view that you are almost completely ignorant on the subject. Then look for novelty to boost your interest.

2. Make it a Game – Give yourself rules, objectives and strategic constraints. The more creative thinking required, the better.

3. Set a Goal – Create a specific goal along with a deadline. This can infuse mundane activities with a sense of direction and purpose. Writing a report goes from being just another task, to a creative challenge that pushes you.

4. Express Yourself – Find hidden opportunities for self-expression. This could mean inventing a style for folding clothes. Changing the format you write code in or altering the style of your presentation. View each activity as an act of expression and originality.

5. Focus – Cut distractions and eliminate noise. The more you focus on an activity the better you can notice interesting qualities about it. The only truly boring activity is the one you can’t pay attention to.

6. Jigsaw Piecing – A jigsaw puzzle has hundreds of uniquely shaped pieces of a picture. View your activities as pieces of a larger image. This can turn dull activities into individual snippets of a more fascinating whole.

7. Dial Down Cravings – Have you ever noticed how the hungrier you are, the less able you are to enjoy the taste of food? This works the same way with passion. The more you crave a goal (instead of the process containing the goal) the less likely you are to develop a passion for it. Goal-setting is good. Goal-obsession is not.

8. Connect with Talents – How can you apply your existing talents to an activity? Find ways to use skills you already have in a new endeavor. An artistic person could draw pictures to help himself study. An athletic person might be able to use her strength and endurance as a speaker.

9. Overcome the Frustration Barrier – If an activity is too difficult for you to become enthusiastic about it, slow down. Worry less about results and more about experimenting until you build up skill. Whenever I try a new hobby, I strive to just try things out before building skills. This keeps me from getting frustrated and ensures the process is fun.

10. Leech Enthusiasm – Energy is contagious. If you spend time with someone who exudes passion about a subject, some of it will rub off on you. Seek out people who have the energy you want and get them to describe their motivation. Often it will point you to key information you had no idea could be so interesting.

11. Remove the Chains – Feeling forced into an activity is a sure way to kill any passion. Instead of flowing with the task, you rebel against it, making you miserable. Be aware of the consequences for not acting, but remove the feeling that you don’t have a choice. You always have a choice.

12. Tune the Challenge – For boring tasks, make them more difficult. For frustrating tasks, make them easier. This can be done by varying the speed or constraints you need to complete a task. Boring chores can be made more interesting by setting a time-limit. Frustrating assignments can be made easier by allowing yourself an awful first-draft instead of perfection.

13. Get instruction – Finding a teacher can give you the basic level of understanding necessary to enjoy an activity. Sometimes passion can be drained just by not knowing the basics.

14. Humble confidence – Confidence is necessary for passion, but arrogance can destroy it. Build a humble confidence where you believe in your abilities to handle the unknown, but you also have a great respect for it.

15. Focus Immediately – Look at the next immediate step. Don’t concern yourself over what needs to be done next month or next year if it overwhelms you. Focus on each step of the marathon, not how many miles you have left.

16. Play – If the process confuses or bothers you, just play with it. Don’t have a purpose until you can define one.

17. Eliminate – This one might not apply, but it is always good to use. If you really can’t enjoy something, find a way to eliminate it from your life. Don’t waste your time doing things you don’t enjoy. Either cultivate a passion or get rid of it.

As a BONUS I like to share with you the SUCCESS FORMULA: