Of course you want to develop yourself, but where do you start? Knowing yourself is a great start to the new year. These simple 25 questions can help you on your way.
Doubts about your job, your relationship, yourself? Sit down with these 25 questions and explore what’s behind the person you think you are. The better you know that, the easier it will be to make choices – and the happier you will be.
- What does your ideal day look like?
- Do you know what you do very well in your job? And what are your weaknesses?
- Who inspires you? What qualities does that person have?
- What’s the best way to relax?
- Look around you all day long, what makes you happy?
- When was the last time you dropped out somewhere? What was the reason? Do you have that more often?
- Which compliments make your eyes shine?
- Who are you jealous of? What does that person have that you don’t (yet) have? Jealousy is a pointer to hidden desires.
- What are you afraid of?
- What are you most proud of?
- Suppose you win the State Lottery. What are you going to do? (after buying a house and a new car, traveling and giving away a lot of money?) And what’s stopping you from making that dream a reality now?
- What makes you angry? Sad? Frustrated? So what do you actually need? Emotions also tell you what is important to you and who you are – deep inside.
- What gives you energy?
- Suppose your life ends today. Of all the things you didn’t do, what would you most regret?
- So far, have you mainly made choices from your head or from your heart?
- What characteristic of yourself do you run into over and over again? What is your pitfall?
- Which parts of yourself (traits/characteristics) do you prefer to hide away? What positive qualities could be behind it?
- What is your first memory of when you were happy?
- How do you come across to other people? Does that match how you see yourself?
- In which situation(s) do you experience tension or problems? Which limiting beliefs about yourself play a role in this?
- What behavior was often ‘punished’ when you were a child (eg in class, or in your family)? What talent is hidden behind that?
- What were the three happiest moments in your working life? And private?
- What advice would you give to yourself at the age of five? eighteenth? twenty-fifth? Now?
- Until now, have you been more like someone who happens to life or someone who designs life itself?
- How would you like to be remembered at your funeral?
Why would you ask yourself these questions?
Self-knowledge makes your life more fun and easier. Logical, because in your work, in love, in friendships and everything else that concerns you, you yourself are the constant – and therefore the key to success. Coaches often see people who get stuck, don’t know what they want, are not happy in their relationship or work. The reason is often a lack of self-knowledge.
Many people operate on autopilot. They have learned certain behaviors and traits because they were once expected of them, but they hardly know what their deeper motivations and innate talents are. That also makes it difficult to determine your course. By asking yourself – preferably with a coach or therapist as a mirror – questions about what you naturally do well, what is important to you and what limiting thoughts or emotions you have, you come closer to yourself, and you automatically see which choices suit you.
This gives peace of mind and self-confidence, so that you increasingly do what feels good and not what other people find important. That is not selfish, on the contrary: if you are happy with what you do and do what suits you, others will feel it. It inspires.
Do you want to get to know yourself even better? Make a DEEP dive into yourself and be open minded to yourself.
THERE IS MAGIC IN ASKING YOURSELF THE RIGHT QUESTIONS !!!
