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Getting Overstimulated in a Busy World – Here’s What You Can Do

Do you often feel overstimulated? You are not alone. Fortunately, there are a lot of things you can do when you get overstimulated. Let’s see.

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That’s how you get overstimulated

In a world where we have to be reachable at all times, overstimulation is lurking. Of course, being connected online has its advantages, but it can also be very tiring.

After all, you are expected to always have your phone on. Who knows, you might even wear a smartwatch , so you can feel social media notifications coming in when your phone is a few meters away.

And forgetting a birthday is no longer allowed, because your digital agenda reminds you of everything, right? And if you don’t post anything on Instagram for a few days, the concerned messages pour in: “Is everything okay?”

We live in a busy world

We live in a busy city or in a lively residential area. It is teeming with cars, cyclists and children playing. But also the screaming advertising. Everywhere something can be seen or heard. Because are you already following that one YouTube account? And do you listen to that inspiring podcast? “You can do that while walking or folding the laundry, you know!”

It is therefore not surprising if it sometimes becomes too much for you. That you would like to put the world on pause and hide in a quiet corner. Your brain has to process so many stimuli at the same time that it becomes exhausted. And so are you.

Do you find yourself getting overstimulated? Then switch back in time. Slow down, avoid unnecessary stimuli and give your brain a rest.

How? Below are things you can do when overstimulation is lurking.

1. Stop Multitasking

Multitasking obviously seems to be the solution for our busy lifestyle, but the question is whether it really benefits you. You lack focus, you inhibit your productivity and you receive twice as many stimuli at the same time.

If you become overstimulated , stopping multitasking is one of the first things you can do to relax. So don’t fold the laundry and listen to a podcast at the same time. Don’t answer apps while you’re cooking.

Do one thing at a time. That will take some getting used to. Suddenly you are much more focused on a task and you notice things that you have never noticed before. You can feel the different textures of the laundry you fold. You smell the scents of the food you make.

Single-tasking provides peace of mind – quite nice.

2. Relax in nature

Go into nature to switch off completely. Preferably without podcast or music in your ears. There is always a piece of nature to be found somewhere nearby. Drive, bike or walk there, turn off the notifications on your phone and walk, run or sit.

It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you are aware of the nature around you. From the smell of the trees, the sound of chirping birds and the feeling of the fresh wind or the warm sunbeams on your skin.

A natural environment has a calming effect – especially if you don’t lose your attention in your smartphone and all the notifications.

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3. Turn off notifications on your phone

Speaking of turning off notifications: you can also turn them off at other times. Just, during the day. Those reports that are pouring in in the meantime? You can watch it when it suits you. Your phone does not determine your schedule, you determine it.

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If people really need you, they just call. By saving up viewing your notifications , you can be more in the here and now with your attention at other times.

4. Limit your screen time

There are things you can do to limit your screen time. For example, you can set a limit for the daily use of certain apps or you can indicate that your phone no longer displays notifications between certain times.

My phone jumps to do not disturb at 9pm in the evening. No more apps or other notifications coming in. If I really need to do something on my phone, I can, but scrolling through Instagram for a while (read: always way too long) is a lot less attractive.

The result: I go to bed earlier or grab a book. A lot less stimulation, and that’s exactly what I need before going to sleep.

5. Schedule free space in your calendar

One swears by an overcrowded agenda and the other gets anxious at the sight of multiple appointments in the weekend. Do you – like me – belong to the latter group? Then make conscious choices.

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Don’t overcrowd your days. Slide appointments to suit you better. After all, you know that you don’t get any more fun when you get overstimulated. You sleep worse, become crankier and concentrate less well. It’s no use to anyone.

Make sure you have enough free space in your agenda. Space to do what you like and what calms you down.

The best way for me to avoid being overstimulated is to go for a run. If I do that on time, then you can do it with music. But without notifications. Just feel the music, nature and my footsteps that I put on the ground.

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What to Do When Your Partner Frustrates You

There is no relationship completely free of conflict. Even two people who love each other a lot and who normally get along are likely to face problems at some point and feel suddenly frustrated, angry, or upset. So, what can you do when you feel frustrated with your partner, whether it’s a choice they made, a problem you have encountered, or a disagreement.

1. Talk, talk, talk

The advice to talk it out is definitely popular, but that’s for a good reason. Communication is the key to a good relationship and appears especially important when you feel frustrated. While one part of you might want to keep quiet and not rock the boat, frustration tends to build up or come back later.

Don’t let things fester, instead, let your partner know when something bugs you and what can be done about it. Perhaps not all things will be fixed entirely, but finding a compromise can allow you to overcome this frustration. You will feel heard, at the least.

2. Give it a bit of time

Sometimes, we get angry or frustrated over small things. We might feel a bit too upset to address the situation adequately. When you feel overwhelmed with emotion, you might want to take a step back and let the situation cool down before talking about it or trying to fix it.

It can be hard to take another perspective or consider another person when you are angry or upset. Instead, give it some time and address it once your emotions get less intense.

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3. Remind yourself of the good things

A small detail can be blown up to feel huge and very important. But try to focus your attention on everything that you love about your partner. It’s more important that they make you feel good, that they respect you and treat you well, that they are supportive, and so on.

Often, this can help you gain a bit more perspective and recognize that even if there is a conflict of opinions, it’s normal and that it doesn’t have to be a deal-breaker. Focus on the good things to quell your frustration.

4. Dig to the roots

Sometimes, the frustration you feel can have specific roots. Maybe what’s happening reminds you of a bad situation in your past or the behavior of an ex. Maybe you are reacting with a lot of anger because of a specific interpretation. Consider the source of your frustration and whether it has to do more with the current situation or with something else that is affecting your perception and judgment.

Sometimes, it will be what’s happening, and you can focus on the true source of frustration. But other times, you might need to dig into yourself and your past to understand why you feel what you feel.

5. Avoid blame, focus on the feelings

It can be tempting to level your frustration at your partner, but it might not always be the most constructive solution. Focus on communicating your feelings – anger, anxiety, frustration, sadness, and so on. Don’t blame your partner, instead, describe how you feel about the situation and what would help you feel better.

A constructive approach can help you resolve the frustration you feel and strengthen your relationship with your partner.

6. Take care of yourself before addressing the problem

Often, our frustration builds up because we are experiencing things that contribute to it, such as exhaustion, hunger, sleep deprivation, or more.

Before you give in, make sure you take care of yourself. Have a snack or a drink, take a nap, rest, give yourself a break. Sometimes, once you do, whatever frustrates you will suddenly feel a lot smaller and less important. Take a quick pause and relax before going to address the problem, and you’re more likely to do it constructively.

7. Let it go

If something truly bothers you and has an impact on your life, you might want to try and fix it. You should not let the big things, like feeling neglected or an action that truly upset you, go. But if you are frustrated by small things that don’t matter on the grand scale of things, you might consider letting it go.

Don’t feel like everything should be perfect – everyone has their little quirks and traits that might not agree with you. You won’t be able to get everything to change, nor should you expect that. If something is just a bit annoying, maybe it’s easier to let go of your frustration and focus on more significant issues.

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What you think daily determines your life

The power of your thoughts is enormous. Your thoughts determine your feelings. Your feelings determine your behavior. Your behavior determines your habits. Your habits determine your character – and your character determines your life. It all starts with what you think every day. Watch with me and find out for yourself:

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Your thoughts determine your feelings.

Almost every feeling arises from a thought. Let’s take two people with two different thoughts on the same subject: The first person thinks, “Change is scary, I want to leave things as it is.” The second person thinks, “New things are interesting, I like change.”

The first person gets a bad feeling about change. The second gets excited and overcomes every challenge. That difference in feeling is no coincidence, it can hardly be otherwise. What you think about a particular topic determines how you feel about that topic.

Your feelings determine your behavior.

How you feel about a situation determines your behavior in that situation. That is why one person will love to be the center of attention, while the other likes to crawl under the table. The former can be found on the stage in the karaoke bar and act like a professional entertainer. Behavior that the other will rarely display, because there is no feeling for it.

Your daily behavior determines your habits.

Your behavior slowly becomes a habit. Maybe you have a habit of being around people a lot, or withdrawing from yourself on a regular basis. Regular exercise becomes a habit, going out regularly becomes a habit. It is my habit to read daily. What is your habit?

Your habits determine your character.

Does someone have a cheerful character, a difficult character, a critical character, a strong character, a social character? That does not happen automatically, it takes a lot of repetition! Much of our character comes from our habits – which we do every day. At birth everything is still free, but slowly our character takes shape.

When people say, “That’s just how I am”, they are referring to their character. Their character is their identity, it is who they are. They are unaware that they were not born with this. A character is the result of what we think, feel and do every day. That’s why people don’t just change. All those daily thoughts, feelings and habits have now become ingrained..

Your character determines your life

Tell me what you do on a daily basis and I predict where you are likely to be in five years. That’s no hocus-pocus. If you eat a bag of chips every day, you will probably be fatter in five years. If you read a book every day, you’ll probably be smarter in five years. If you walk and your course doesn’t change, we can see where your final destination is, can’t we?

What you think, feel or do every day is reinforced. The power of this is enormous. Change rarely comes in one huge step. Change is usually the result of hundreds of small steps. So the steps you take consistently every day. The steps you take in your work, in your relationships, in your health, in your personal growth. That determines where you go.

And the circle is complete!

Now we’ve come to the end – but it’s a circle, not a dead end. The experiences in your life reinforce your character. Your character reinforces what you do. That in turn reinforces how you feel. And that reinforces what you think. Now we are back at the beginning – to your thoughts. It is a continuous circle. Everything influences each other..

This whole story has only one point: Everything starts with what you think every day. If you generally have constructive and positive thoughts, you will feel good every day. From that good feeling you will make choices that suit you – and you will achieve your personal goals. This slowly shapes your habits and character. Be aware of what you think every day, because this determines your life..

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Personal growth through radical candor

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Exposing your feelings is not recommended in many situations. Statements like “don’t say anything if you don’t have anything nice to say” and thoughts like “expressing feelings is unprofessional” seem deeply rooted in our society. This applies in private situations and in the workplace, but also applies to leaders. Yet radical candor actually contributes to personal growth and gives you the opportunity to be the best version of yourself.

When we hide our feelings from others, we often do it because we don’t want to cause a stir or because we want to protect ourselves from criticism or not be excluded from the group. However, concealing how you really think or feel about something now only helps you in the short term. The price you pay by continuously pleasing is at the expense of your creativity, passion and motivation.

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PRACTICE RADICAL CANDOR

With radical candor, we show our full selves to others. By practicing this you are authentic and you are vulnerable. You show that you support your own feelings, take others into account and give them the space to be candid. It is about connecting yourself and others, with care and feeling.

Examples of frankness in the workplace can be admitting as a manager that a new business strategy frightens you, sharing with colleagues that things are not going well for you and that there is something in your private life that distracts you, or telling your employer that his or her comment feels uncomfortable to you.

Openness not only ensures that you stay close to yourself, set your limits and do not suppress your feelings, it also creates space to grow together. Because how great would it be if you knew how everyone felt, if everyone dared to discuss everything in a respectful way and everyone would be heard and seen?