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Seven (7) Differences between happy and unhappy relationships

How To Be Happy In A Relationship By Doing These 10 Subtle Things Every Day

Happy relationships are no accident. Neither are unhappy relationships. They are the result of conscious choices:

1 – Love and trust are handled differently from unhappy relationships.
2 – There is more depth and more is shared.
3 – Both partners are emotionally independent and appreciate this in each other.

Do you have to end your relationship immediately in case of relationship problems? No Fortunately not!

Learn from the lessons of happy relationships and apply them to avoid a lot of relationship problems.

Just read the comments below …

How do you get a happy relationship with someone else?

What is a Happy Relationship? Very simple, that is a relationship that gives you energy and where you and the other feel good. The secret to a happy relationship is to stay yourself and let the other person remain themselves.

How do you get a happy relationship? By working on it. But… you have to know very well if you have the right partner to do that. You cannot fly with a boat, so the choice of your relationship partner is very important.

Happy without a relationship or happier with a relationship?

Better happy without a relationship than not happy while you are in a relationship, isn’t it? In a happy relationship you don’t test each other, you trust and support each other. If not, then you may be better off without the other. You don’t have to have a huge spiritual relationship, but love and trust do have to be there.

These pillars of a relationship always remain important, whether you are in a long relationship or a short relationship with someone.

These are the seven TOP tips for a happy relationship:

1. Love makes for a happy relationship.

In unhealthy relationships, love is a bargaining chip: “I only love you if you do this for me. And when it does, I hate you. “

Love is a means to an end, which is to gain control over the relationship.

Unfortunately, control and happiness are at odds with each other. So trying to get control in your relationship (by trying to control the other) and being happy in your relationship don’t usually go together.

For example: As long as you do what the other wants, there is love. And otherwise there is the opposite: anger, aversion, jealousy or envy. So love is very limited and usually just a snapshot.

Set conditions for your happiness.

In happy relationships, few conditions are placed on love. “I love you just the way you are.” Or: “As long as you do what makes you happy, I’m too happy.” This allows love to grow.

And love only grows in trust, not in control, because control is based more on fear and fear hooks on love.

So let go of control:

The more you feel that the other person loves you the way you are, the more you can be yourself – and the more love you can give back.

2. No happy relationships without trust.

There is little trust in unhappy relationships. Whenever you are hurt by the other person’s behavior, trust diminishes. In the end you take everything the other says with a grain of salt. Without trust there is no love, depth, intimacy or understanding, so the relationship becomes increasingly distant.

People in happy relationships trust each other blindly. They know exactly what they can do for each other. Perhaps it took a long time for this confidence to be established. But once present, it continues to feed the relationship with positive energy. You know that the other person wants the best for you – and vice versa of course.

Trust is the most important ingredient to a happy relationship, be it a relationship with your partner, with your friends or with colleagues. Trust is everything.

3. Depth is necessary for every relationship.

In less good relationships communication is superficial. You never know what is really on the other’s mind – or you don’t feel the need to tell them what’s on your mind . As a result, conversations never get to the core: what someone really thinks or feels. There is a lot of talk about situations (what messages have been done, what the weather forecast is), but little about deeper feelings.

In happy relationships, that depth is there. There is talk about what really concerns the other. When you share the bed, you are physically intimate. When you share feelings, you are emotionally intimate. Without intimacy, there is only distance. Depth is essential to avoid that.

4. Sharing makes happy relationships even better.

Little is shared in superficial relationships. It seems as if everyone leads their own life and only lives together by chance. Interests are not shared, experiences are not exchanged and ideas are not discussed. The relationship resembles two islands with a very long bridge in between. You can only share by crossing. But usually that is a bridge too far. Everyone stays on their own island …

In happy relationships, a lot is shared (not everything, as there may be a part that you would rather share with others or keep to yourself). That sharing creates a bond. Sharing is giving something away and then receiving it twice back. As they say: “Sharing is caring.” Two islands have converged …

5. Laughter is healthy for any relationship.

There is little laughter in bad relationships. Everything is heavy and serious. There is usually no ability to put things into perspective. Sometimes people escape this by seeking pleasure outside of the relationship. “She’s always so serious, I just want to have fun with my friends.” Or: “He sees everything so black, at least with my best friend I can laugh …”

Happy relationships do involve a lot of laughter. Laughing together – even if it’s just about your own shortcomings – is so liberating! What do you do when you’ve had a rough day? Sometimes you just don’t feel like talking about it. Then you feel better at a comedy or a pillow fight. A day without laughter is a day wasted. Laughter provides light, warmth and relaxation. Smile, damn!

6. Without independence there is only dependence.

In difficult relationships there is always some form of dependence. One partner is dependent on the other. It doesn’t even have to be financial dependence. More often it is an emotional dependence. It’s as if one of the two cares less about what the other does. The person who has the least to lose if the relationship ends is the one who determines the relationship.

In healthy relationships there is equality. Two people decide: “We feel fine without each other, but even better together. We choose to be together. Not out of necessity or poverty, but out of love. ” Both people value each other and do not allow one to prevail or determine the relationship.

7. Appreciation is necessary for all happy relationships.

In bad relationships, the focus is very much on what the partner is doing wrong. “I say it every time, but you never get it right!” Or: “When will I get through to you?” Since the focus is on the other person ‘s shortcomings , there is a lot of dissatisfaction. More attention is paid to what is not there than to what is.

Happy couples appreciate each other.

1 – You know that the other is not perfect.

2 – You have no desire to change him or her.

3 – You forget the small mistakes and focus on what you do appreciate.

You cannot appreciate someone until you stop focusing on their flaws. That does not only apply to your relationship, but also to yourself!

Do you want a happy relationship with other people?

With your partner, or with your family, friends or colleagues?

Then you need more insight – and you also need to work on yourself. Because a good relationship always starts with a good relationship with yourself .

To your success.

Keep your relation moving.

Fifteen Actions That Will Help You Know Yourself Better…

You, yourself, how do you keep the balance on this path of life full of surprises?

In this blog I want to take a dip in yourself with you. I know that many of you are often at odds with yourself and that you have therefore been heaped up inside yourself. But do not worry, you are often the solution for yourself that comes from your self-reflection. Read more …

The fact that you are moving forward does not mean that you have confidence. In yourself and in the situation. The focus is on relationship in this blog. And especially the relationship with yourself. Because everything we have ever adopted stories about relationships is also how we deal with ourselves. The fear of allowing love, and especially the love for ourselves, keeps us from completely opening ourselves to others. A nice week / day / month / year to examine exactly what that is. Because what makes it that you turn your back on love again and again. What makes it that you always leave your own heart? What deep conviction is there? What if you can just start with being vulnerable? To yourself. Admit to that what is in your heart. Awake!

Allow yourself, for example, to need your parents and find them and unite them in yourself. So that you can be both a father and a mother for your own inner pieces. When we fix ourselves in the energy and take over certain feelings from one of our parents, it always tries to find a way out. This allows us to turn around when someone is trying to get closer. And that someone, you often are yourself. We may allow ourselves to be more in all colors that we have. There is no right or wrong. There are only choices. And that choice can be determined by what you have ever learned, as a truth. Only that is not YOUR truth.

This whole period and then also this weekday / basket / year, is meant to heal your heart from those old wounds. Wounds that may have been around for life. Anyway, you are also involved in this life and you can start living more from your heart. And also the choices that you make here may seem as if they are from the heart, but are driven by patterns. These patterns become more transparent as you continue to rediscover yourself. By conversing with yourself from inside and outside you will certainly get more clarity from your own actions. What do you long for? And how can you give yourself the best at this moment? How exciting is that, to leave that alone in your heart?

Because you have not previously become acquainted with giving yourself the best, because you always had to “be” for the other person. But what if it can both. What if you can take very good care of yourself and can really be there for the other person. What does it cost you and what does not? And why would you always choose what is now just as heavy for you? And also allow the feelings of shame and guilt when you choose for yourself and still say that voice; Yes but. Talk to that part in you. Tell him or her that you hear her, that she may feel guilty but that you are going to try it out in this way. Be gentle and understanding towards these emotions. The more you allow yourself to feel and acknowledge, the more you can become free from everything you are in excess of in your emotions. Bring everything back into balance. Every particle of yours, every thought, every feeling, every emotion.

Let it come together in the center of your body. So that it can flow to the earth and you can therefore focus more within.

Make yourself soft to say things and let go or finish things.

Make a new start. A week / month / day / year in which you will see the blessings of what has been played in the past period. That it was not for nothing that you went through.

I hope that I, as a reader, have set you in motion enough to think about yourself and to learn to rediscover and recharge yourself with valuable energy.

FIRE NATION……CHASE YOUR DREAMS

Got a Dream? Achieving certain dreams often requires FAR LESS WORK than achieving other, seemingly easier goals. Why is that so? Because it is much, much harder to work for to achieve a dream we don’t passionately desire. But when you manage to get yourself focused on what is naturally a passionate interest. your work becomes play.

Did you ever had a dream…..Got a Dream?

Achieving certain dreams often requires FAR LESS WORK than achieving other, seemingly easier goals. Why is that so?

Because it is much, much harder to work for to achieve a dream we don’t passionately desire. But when you manage to get yourself focused on what is naturally a passionate interest. your work becomes play.

Is Your Dream a Good Fit?

Hopefully you have invested some thought clarifying your dream … and you know exactly what you want. If that is the case. why not take a few minutes to ask yourself an important question — am I pursuing the right dream and goal for ME?

Here is why that is so important: You will never really achieve your true potential as long as you pour your energy into something that does not really fit your true passions and interests! Does that seem too simple?

Think about it. It is often very easy to automatically adopt someone elses goal. We were trained to do that very thing as children.

Ninty-nine percent of us were fully expected to achieve the goals our parents and educational system set out for us. Some of us gave in and tried to comply. Some of us rebelled and learned to fail instead. And some of us felt somehow inadequate because we did not have the natural interest and/or aptitude to do what we were expected to do.

If you find you never seem to achieve your goals, you may be setting goals you don’t really desire or believe in for yourself.

This is never going to lead to success. What leads to is one false start after another… and a tendency to want to quit after the first bump in the road. This is a major dead-end, and will do nothing but gradually erode your self confidence.

PURSUE AN APPROPRIATE DREAM

Three things will happen if you make the effort to refocus yourself around a dream and supporting goal that is more in keeping with your natural talents and passions:

First, you will be happier, less stressed, and far more productive.

Second, you will be more likely to hang in when you hit those jarring bumps in the road.

Third, there is a higher probability you will achieve a level of excellence at what you’re doing. This increases your value thereby increasing your potential for increased return on your efforts.

Put your goal to the test. Does it truly “measure up” to your innermost desires?Now … ask yourself this question: What do you have to do NOW to get what you want?

IGNITE & EXPLODE …..