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Are you unable to sleep because you are bothered by racing thoughts? Do those racing thoughts keep you awake and would you like to stop them? These insights help.

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1. Realize that you will still have this brain tomorrow

There is something you should not forget. At least, your brain doesn’t want you to forget it. For example, in your head you rehearse how you are going to tell that colleague the truth after the weekend. Or you’re wondering again what to do about that annoying problem that’s gnawing at you.

Well – good news. The fact that you can think about it like this in bed now – when you are most tired – means that you can think about it even more tomorrow .

When you wake up tomorrow you will still have this brain. In fact – tomorrow your brain will be rested, and it will be much better able to deal with the world in a constructive way.

So let it go. Trust that your brain knows what to do during that conversation with that colleague on Monday. And know that you can put it back to work tomorrow to solve that problem.

Now you can sleep.

2. Know that those racing thoughts are absolutely useless

All those rehearsals and contemplations cost you a lot of energy. They keep you awake and make your brain work overtime. And for what? For a false sense of control .

If you think long enough about the confrontation you want to face, it seems as if you are preparing yourself well. In reality, you mainly become cramped and restless. And that preparation leads nowhere.

Why not? Because life rarely unfolds the way we imagine it does late at night . The reality is always different. Then you are ready with the sharp comments that you have ‘rehearsed’ at night – but the confrontation turns out to be completely absent. Well.

You don’t think about the problems in your life in bed. You do this with a notebook in front of your face, a cup of coffee on the table and nice music. With an attitude of: “So, how are we going to wash that pig.”

So let it go. You can go to sleep. Because if you’re busy doing completely pointless things, you might as well go to sleep. At least that’s good for something.

3. Know that you have no control over it anyway

It is what it is. And you don’t always have control over how things are.

In fact, you have almost no control over most of the things you worry about. That is the reason you suffer from those racing thoughts . Because if you had control over it now, you would just fix the problem. Worrying thoughts give you – as I already wrote – a false sense of control.

By keeping the thoughts in the front of your brain, you seem to gain more control. In reality, you mainly get more stress hormones and a significant sleep deprivation.

You know – it can be hard not to have control over something. But you can also look at it differently. It is also liberating to realize this .

Why? Because then you can let it go. “We’ll see how it turns out” is quite a healthy way of thinking in such a situation. Because this is the only logical response when you have no control over something .

You don’t worry about whether the sun will rise tomorrow, do you? You have no say in that at all. If a black hole suddenly hurls Earth out of the solar system or a nearby supernova sterilizes the planet in an instant – that’s what it is. If we freeze to death, then we freeze to death, my grandmother would have said.

So please go to sleep. You ‘ll see again tomorrow . Life unfolds as it unfolds. That’s what it is. And that’s how it has always been. No reason to worry, but reason to relax. Tomorrow you will be ready again with a rested brain – so time to rest.

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Letting go of control seems almost impossible. How do you let go of control when you’re afraid things will go wrong? How can you let go of what you fear? Still, letting go of control is possible, with the insights in this article.

The more control we want, the more tension we get in return. Because many things can we just can not control.

There are 3 simple questions that hardly anyone asks themselves. When you answer these questions, you automatically let go. And you can apply this to any area of your life.

Letting go gives you relaxation, confidence and inner strength. Let it go!

What can you control – and what not?

We have no control over the future, because no one knows exactly what will happen. We have no control over other people because they just do what they want to do.

If you think carefully, you will see that you cannot control many situations and people. You really only have control over what you do – here and now .

If you can’t change something, you can only accept and let go. This often feels unnatural, because control is part of our system. We have the illusion that we can influence almost everything.

Well, if it were, your life would be absolutely perfect, wouldn’t it?

Then you had already arranged that yourself …

Exercise in letting go – in every area.

You can apply the following exercise in any area of your life. You can practice this every day, in any situation. It does not matter whether it is about letting go of financial worries, relationship problems or worries about the future.

Letting go is the solution to all stress and worries. The essence is always this: too much control creates tension. In any field!

When you try to control something, something controls you too.
When you let go of something, you are free.

The next time you feel tension, ask yourself the following three questions:

Letting go of control – question 1: What am I trying to control?

What is causing my inner turmoil? Do I want a guarantee for the future? Am I trying to determine what someone else should do? Am I concerned with the past? What makes me feel insecure?

Find the core of that tension. What are you trying to control or change? For instance:

1. I regret that I made that choice then.
2. Why did he do it that way?
3. I hope he keeps his promises!
4. She won’t react like that again, will she?
5. I want the assurance that this choice is the best for my future.
6. I hope everything goes well next week.

Then ask yourself the following question:

Letting go of control – question 2: Can I actually control that?

That’s a simple question that most people never ask themselves.

Can you really change this? Do you really influence here? Is this within your control?

There are two options:

a) Yes, you can do something about this. Great – stop worrying and do it!
b) No, you have no influence (anymore) on this. Then you can only accept this and let it go.

Letting go of control – question 3: Am I willing to let it go?

We usually do not get around to this step either. We intellectually understand that we have to let go of something, but we just don’t want or ca n’t.

Why not? Because we still feel too many negative emotions: fear, uncertainty, doubt, regret, frustration, etc.

Yet there is one very good reason to let it go: Because letting go helps yourself . Because you hold with yourself disadvantage . It’s just in your best interest.

And after you make this decision, your emotions automatically start to change. Then your emotions become positive and relaxed again.

Make the decision now:

“Yes, I realize that I am only hurting myself by sticking to what I cannot (anymore) change at the moment. In the interest of my own mental and physical health, I decide to let go of this. I know it will make me feel better. So I am willing to let it go. ”

The final step: Let it go!

Now you have seen what you are trying to control. You have seen that you cannot control it. You know you have to let it go. And you are willing to actually let it go.

Congratulations! Now you are ready for the final step: Let it go!

Use a short sentence (also called a belief, affirmation, autosuggestion, or mantra) to help you through this step.

Your own words are always the best!

Here are some examples you can use:

1. It’s okay.
2. I let go.
3. It is the way it is.

4. I’m at peace with it.
5. I forgive myself.
6. I forgive him / her.

7. I accept it.
8. It’s good enough.
9. I let it rest.

Pay attention! This exercise is not a one-off.

You will have to repeat this often. It is an illusion that we suddenly start to feel everything differently. But you will definitely feel different when you practice with this!

There is no other option: repetition is the mother of every skill.

And lasting relaxation is the result of regular practice of letting go.

Relaxation becomes a habit if you keep practicing.

Keep in mind that sooner or later check comes up again and says:

“Hey, not too relaxed! Come on, we have so much to plan, check, change. You still have to worry, worry and think about the past. You still have to worry about everything! ”

Control is a habit – and habits keep coming back. Especially in the beginning. But keep practicing.

You will find that each layer you release in one area helps you in other areas as well. If you let go of control at work, you can also do that in your relationships. The gist is always the same, remember?

Let it goooooo!

Letting go is an art that you can refine throughout your life. There is no end point, we can always let go of something deeper.

To say it with Elsa from the animated film ‘Frozen’: Let it goooooo!

FROZEN | Let It Go Sing-along | Official Disney UK - YouTube

With every layer of tension you release, you gain access to a hidden layer of energy and well-being. Do you have any idea how many extra layers of energy and well-being are still waiting for you? Can you imagine how good you would feel learning to tap it?

Do you want to find out? Do you want more relaxation and more energy?

Go on research and make the best choice to take actions….

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