“CONFIDENCE is when you believe in yourself and your abilities, ARROGANCE is when you think you are better than others and act accordingly.” – Stewart Stafford
“Having a low opinion of yourself is not ‘modesty’. It’s self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not ‘egotism’. It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success.” – Bobbe Sommer
“To establish true self-esteem, WE MUST CONCENTRATE ON OUR SUCCESSES and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.” — Denis Waitley
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.” – Henry Ford
“Nothing builds self esteem and self confidence like accomplishment.” – Thomas Carlyle
“Have confidence that if you have done a little thing well, you can do a bigger thing well too.” – David Storey
“Confidence is A HABIT that can be developed by acting as IF YOU ALREADY had the confidence you desire to have.” – Brian Tracy
“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. YOU ARE BETTER THAN YOU THINK.” – T. Harv Eker
“Self worth cannot be verified by others. You are worthy because you say it is so. If you depend on others for your value it is other-worth.” – Wayne Dyer
“Self confidence is a SUPER POWER. Once you start to believe in yourself, magic starts happening.” – Unknown
Bonus #1 “You are a Divine creation, a Being of Light who showed up here as a human being at the exact moment you were supposed to. You are the Beloved, a miracle, a part of the eternal perfection.” — Wayne Dyer
Bonus #2 “Always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – Christopher Robin Unleash your super powers by reminding yourself of your successes, your strengths, your wisdom, your experience and how far you’ve come. YOU ARE THE POWER!
The power of your thoughts is enormous. Your thoughts determine your feelings. Your feelings determine your behavior. Your behavior determines your habits. Your habits determine your character – and your character determines your life. It all starts with what you think every day. Watch with me and find out for yourself:
Your thoughts determine your feelings.
Almost every feeling arises from a thought. Let’s take two people with two different thoughts on the same subject: The first person thinks, “Change is scary, I want to leave things as it is.” The second person thinks, “New things are interesting, I like change.”
The first person gets a bad feeling about change. The second gets excited and overcomes every challenge. That difference in feeling is no coincidence, it can hardly be otherwise. What you think about a particular topic determines how you feel about that topic.
Your feelings determine your behavior.
How you feel about a situation determines your behavior in that situation. That is why one person will love to be the center of attention, while the other likes to crawl under the table. The former can be found on the stage in the karaoke bar and act like a professional entertainer. Behavior that the other will rarely display, because there is no feeling for it.
Your daily behavior determines your habits.
Your behavior slowly becomes a habit. Maybe you have a habit of being around people a lot, or withdrawing from yourself on a regular basis. Regular exercise becomes a habit, going out regularly becomes a habit. It is my habit to read daily. What is your habit?
Your habits determine your character.
Does someone have a cheerful character, a difficult character, a critical character, a strong character, a social character? That does not happen automatically, it takes a lot of repetition! Much of our character comes from our habits – which we do every day. At birth everything is still free, but slowly our character takes shape.
When people say, “That’s just how I am”, they are referring to their character. Their character is their identity, it is who they are. They are unaware that they were not born with this. A character is the result of what we think, feel and do every day. That’s why people don’t just change. All those daily thoughts, feelings and habits have now become ingrained..
Your character determines your life
Tell me what you do on a daily basis and I predict where you are likely to be in five years. That’s no hocus-pocus. If you eat a bag of chips every day, you will probably be fatter in five years. If you read a book every day, you’ll probably be smarter in five years. If you walk and your course doesn’t change, we can see where your final destination is, can’t we?
What you think, feel or do every day is reinforced. The power of this is enormous. Change rarely comes in one huge step. Change is usually the result of hundreds of small steps. So the steps you take consistently every day. The steps you take in your work, in your relationships, in your health, in your personal growth. That determines where you go.
And the circle is complete!
Now we’ve come to the end – but it’s a circle, not a dead end. The experiences in your life reinforce your character. Your character reinforces what you do. That in turn reinforces how you feel. And that reinforces what you think. Now we are back at the beginning – to your thoughts. It is a continuous circle. Everything influences each other..
This whole story has only one point: Everything starts with what you think every day. If you generally have constructive and positive thoughts, you will feel good every day. From that good feeling you will make choices that suit you – and you will achieve your personal goals. This slowly shapes your habits and character. Be aware of what you think every day, because this determines your life..
Letting go of control seems almost impossible. How do you let go of control when you’re afraid things will go wrong? How can you let go of what you fear? Still, letting go of control is possible, with the insights in this article.
The more control we want, the more tension we get in return. Because many things can we just can not control.
There are 3 simple questions that hardly anyone asks themselves. When you answer these questions, you automatically let go. And you can apply this to any area of your life.
Letting go gives you relaxation, confidence and inner strength. Let it go!
What can you control – and what not?
We have no control over the future, because no one knows exactly what will happen. We have no control over other people because they just do what they want to do.
If you think carefully, you will see that you cannot control many situations and people. You really only have control over what you do – here and now .
If you can’t change something, you can only accept and let go. This often feels unnatural, because control is part of our system. We have the illusion that we can influence almost everything.
Well, if it were, your life would be absolutely perfect, wouldn’t it?
Then you had already arranged that yourself …
Exercise in letting go – in every area.
You can apply the following exercise in any area of your life. You can practice this every day, in any situation. It does not matter whether it is about letting go of financial worries, relationship problems or worries about the future.
Letting go is the solution to all stress and worries. The essence is always this: too much control creates tension. In any field!
When you try to control something, something controls you too. When you let go of something, you are free.
The next time you feel tension, ask yourself the following three questions:
Letting go of control – question 1: What am I trying to control?
What is causing my inner turmoil? Do I want a guarantee for the future? Am I trying to determine what someone else should do? Am I concerned with the past? What makes me feel insecure?
Find the core of that tension. What are you trying to control or change? For instance:
1. I regret that I made that choice then. 2. Why did he do it that way? 3. I hope he keeps his promises! 4. She won’t react like that again, will she? 5. I want the assurance that this choice is the best for my future. 6. I hope everything goes well next week.
Then ask yourself the following question:
Letting go of control – question 2: Can I actually control that?
That’s a simple question that most people never ask themselves.
Can you really change this? Do you really influence here? Is this within your control?
There are two options:
a) Yes, you can do something about this. Great – stop worrying and do it! b) No, you have no influence (anymore) on this. Then you can only accept this and let it go.
Letting go of control – question 3: Am I willing to let it go?
We usually do not get around to this step either. We intellectually understand that we have to let go of something, but we just don’t want or ca n’t.
Why not? Because we still feel too many negative emotions: fear, uncertainty, doubt, regret, frustration, etc.
Yet there is one very good reason to let it go: Because letting go helps yourself . Because you hold with yourself disadvantage . It’s just in your best interest.
And after you make this decision, your emotions automatically start to change. Then your emotions become positive and relaxed again.
Make the decision now:
“Yes, I realize that I am only hurting myself by sticking to what I cannot (anymore) change at the moment. In the interest of my own mental and physical health, I decide to let go of this. I know it will make me feel better. So I am willing to let it go. ”
The final step: Let it go!
Now you have seen what you are trying to control. You have seen that you cannot control it. You know you have to let it go. And you are willing to actually let it go.
Congratulations! Now you are ready for the final step: Let it go!
Use a short sentence (also called a belief, affirmation, autosuggestion, or mantra) to help you through this step.
Your own words are always the best!
Here are some examples you can use:
1. It’s okay. 2. I let go. 3. It is the way it is.
4. I’m at peace with it. 5. I forgive myself. 6. I forgive him / her.
7. I accept it. 8. It’s good enough. 9. I let it rest.
Pay attention! This exercise is not a one-off.
You will have to repeat this often. It is an illusion that we suddenly start to feel everything differently. But you will definitely feel different when you practice with this!
There is no other option: repetition is the mother of every skill.
And lasting relaxation is the result of regular practice of letting go.
Relaxation becomes a habit if you keep practicing.
Keep in mind that sooner or later check comes up again and says:
“Hey, not too relaxed! Come on, we have so much to plan, check, change. You still have to worry, worry and think about the past. You still have to worry about everything! ”
Control is a habit – and habits keep coming back. Especially in the beginning. But keep practicing.
You will find that each layer you release in one area helps you in other areas as well. If you let go of control at work, you can also do that in your relationships. The gist is always the same, remember?
Let it goooooo!
Letting go is an art that you can refine throughout your life. There is no end point, we can always let go of something deeper.
To say it with Elsa from the animated film ‘Frozen’: Let it goooooo!
With every layer of tension you release, you gain access to a hidden layer of energy and well-being. Do you have any idea how many extra layers of energy and well-being are still waiting for you? Can you imagine how good you would feel learning to tap it?
Do you want to find out? Do you want more relaxation and more energy?
Go on research and make the best choice to take actions….
