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MY NINE WAYS TO FIND/DISCOVER MORE PEACE

Everyone is bothered by it. From those days that you overflow with stress, that everything and everyone is just too busy and you prefer to crawl under a stone. After a normal working week or during work it can be difficult and before you realize it, you have handed out the first snail again. Emotions blur your decision making. The tension has to slip away from you, just how do you provide more peace and relaxation and how to ensure that it has a lasting effect?

Of course it is not fair if others are the victim of your chagrin. And you yourself do not become happier. Sometimes it seems that nothing helps. Holiday, weekly yoga sessions, massages. Nothing helps. Perhaps you even consider the doctor, because you come to rest so hard. The pressure in the 24-hour society is of course high. You want to get your business done at work. Often it is also pressure that we impose ourselves or that is imposed from home and we maintain an old pattern. Previously, for example, it was expected that everything could be better and career was very important. This is partly it, but it is what you demand of yourself. You may have received a deeply rooted perfectionism.

Yet it is true that we are all human and we are (unfortunately?) None of them perfect. Maybe that’s why it’s time to adjust your expectations a little and be a bit milder for yourself? We put nine tips in a row to get a bit to yourself. It should not be natural, but it is for your own good. We recommend applying it with some regularity, so that it brings relaxation that is permanent or at least easier to come back.

1. Space

Find the space to relax, but also give your limits at work or at the home front. The unrest that you feel is of course a signal that you need something. Dare to choose for yourself and that can be done in tig ways. For example, go dancing, horseback riding, walking, running, surfing and / or sauna. Take free. In other words, take care of time for yourself. It can also be coffee, tea, lunch or a game of pool with a friend. It is important to discharge.

2. Cry

It sounds like an open door, but we are all people with feelings. So pull back if necessary and find a place where you can just be human. Does it help to go to the forest or sit in the attic? Then do that. Too much tension is stuck in your body and that has to be removed. Just let the tears run free, without judging or thinking about what that will bring. It is just there and you can get rid of it better than being rich.

3. Feel

Do you find it difficult to allow emotions? Then learn to feel step by step. It is also better to feel than to worry. And worrying about those feelings is not good either, so just try to accept them. It is what it is. Easier said than done of course. We admit that, it does require some time and attention, but the creed is ‘not thinking but feeling’. Just try switching.

4. Breath

When we are tense, we often sit high in our breath. In other words, breathing quickly. Breathing often does not go beyond the diaphragm, whereas it is important to breathe in the stomach or even deeper. So you notice that you are in a hurry. Try to breathe calmly and deeply. Maybe it’s even good to sit down or just stop what you do. If only for a few seconds, just go back to yourself. Feel the cold as you breathe in and the warmth of your breath as you exhale. Follow him all the way to your belly. Will not this work immediately? No worries, will come naturally. Try to do this a number of times (per day). At the desk, on the toilet, outside, in the car or at the station, you name it. Breathing is something that you can always go back to. It can be a very powerful way to come to grief if there is room for it.

5. Focus

We are not all the same, but probably we all know the feeling that we are feeling unstable or that we feel that we have fallen off our pedestals. Sometimes it’s because of something someone said and you got a bit of a hit or it’s just busy around you, making it come your way. The emotion just grabs you by the scrubs and of course you do not feel like it. Then try to focus a moment on yourself or to perpetuate your energy. The one calls it earthen, the other back to the core, but actually it is bundling your own power. You stand or sit with your feet on the floor, breathe down as far as possible and follow the rhythm of your breathing. Also try to make contact with your heart and try to let love or peace flow. Imagine that you are completely compact. If you want to go one step further, do a body scan, feel the tension, try to let go. Then fill your body with white light. Relax.

6. Attitude

The body gets stuck due to a one-sided posture and / or overload. More and more people have neck, shoulder and back complaints. Especially in today’s culture where many people are confined to their desks and lean forward over our smartphone.
In fact, we would have to disconnect from our computer every half an hour. Yet people are always inclined to continue. Maybe such a kitchen timer or a little pause is not such a crazy idea yet? Or get that round of coffee? A Mensendieck therapist can also tell very well what a good posture is and what kind of exercises may be needed for relaxation. Often we are so conditioned that we unconsciously raise our shoulder (s), sit on our chair or hang out. What are you doing? Can it be more relaxed?

7. Pause

Busy busy busy. The work has to be finished, but if something is bad, it is the pause. In the past it was still commonplace that you had four breaks a day. Half an hour from your boss and half an hour from yourself. Not that crazy yet, and that takes fifteen minutes. Should actually be a sting. It is nevertheless a balance between work and relaxation. Even if you work at home. Often you get more done with a short break and you have a different view when you return to your workplace. Maybe still enter that lunch (together) instead of eating the sandwich for the computer? Of course you can also walk around. And do not be ashamed if you occasionally do a (relaxation) exercise at your workplace. The only one who can protect himself is you.

8. Structure

Provide structure. Only in the event of repetition can new behavior actually be tapped or changes can be experienced as lasting. Research shows that for real change more than two months is needed. Some people even say 21 days. Maybe three weeks is good to start with, but of course it is true that some tension has been building for years. Of course that is not gone at once. Actually it is just trial and error. So be gentle to yourself, be patient, but also have discipline. If it does not work one time, try again another time. Then it will most likely be better.

9. Help

Not everyone needs help, but sometimes it does not work or is difficult. The deep breathing stagnates, endless sports sessions work against and tension do not get lost. Do not be ashamed. It is, however, an idea to ask what it can be. Psychologists, mental coaches, mindfulness courses or just the masseur or physiotherapist. It does not exist for nothing. Of course, talking to friends can also purchase a series of self-help books. Tai Chi, silence or yoga retreats may also be an idea.

You, yourself, how do you keep the balance on this path of life full of surprises?

In this blog I want to take a dip in yourself with you. I know that many of you are often at odds with yourself and that you have therefore been heaped up inside yourself. But do not worry, you are often the solution for yourself that comes from your self-reflection. Read more …

The fact that you are moving forward does not mean that you have confidence. In yourself and in the situation. The focus is on relationship in this blog. And especially the relationship with yourself. Because everything we have ever adopted stories about relationships is also how we deal with ourselves. The fear of allowing love, and especially the love for ourselves, keeps us from completely opening ourselves to others. A nice week / day / month / year to examine exactly what that is. Because what makes it that you turn your back on love again and again. What makes it that you always leave your own heart? What deep conviction is there? What if you can just start with being vulnerable? To yourself. Admit to that what is in your heart. Awake!

Allow yourself, for example, to need your parents and find them and unite them in yourself. So that you can be both a father and a mother for your own inner pieces. When we fix ourselves in the energy and take over certain feelings from one of our parents, it always tries to find a way out. This allows us to turn around when someone is trying to get closer. And that someone, you often are yourself. We may allow ourselves to be more in all colors that we have. There is no right or wrong. There are only choices. And that choice can be determined by what you have ever learned, as a truth. Only that is not YOUR truth.

This whole period and then also this weekday / basket / year, is meant to heal your heart from those old wounds. Wounds that may have been around for life. Anyway, you are also involved in this life and you can start living more from your heart. And also the choices that you make here may seem as if they are from the heart, but are driven by patterns. These patterns become more transparent as you continue to rediscover yourself. By conversing with yourself from inside and outside you will certainly get more clarity from your own actions. What do you long for? And how can you give yourself the best at this moment? How exciting is that, to leave that alone in your heart?

Because you have not previously become acquainted with giving yourself the best, because you always had to “be” for the other person. But what if it can both. What if you can take very good care of yourself and can really be there for the other person. What does it cost you and what does not? And why would you always choose what is now just as heavy for you? And also allow the feelings of shame and guilt when you choose for yourself and still say that voice; Yes but. Talk to that part in you. Tell him or her that you hear her, that she may feel guilty but that you are going to try it out in this way. Be gentle and understanding towards these emotions. The more you allow yourself to feel and acknowledge, the more you can become free from everything you are in excess of in your emotions. Bring everything back into balance. Every particle of yours, every thought, every feeling, every emotion.

Let it come together in the center of your body. So that it can flow to the earth and you can therefore focus more within.

Make yourself soft to say things and let go or finish things.

Make a new start. A week / month / day / year in which you will see the blessings of what has been played in the past period. That it was not for nothing that you went through.

I hope that I, as a reader, have set you in motion enough to think about yourself and to learn to rediscover and recharge yourself with valuable energy.

Fall asleep laughing with this (new) technique

As human being we are facing tons of problems and challenges everyday. Sometimes you may not be able to solve things right away. But if you are smart you go and do research. Let me tell you it is time consuming but finally you will be satisfied. As a blogger research is very important to run after things etc. In this blog I will share some information for those who experiences problems to fall asleep.

To sleep well and enough, a healthy routine is useful. In addition, factors such as lifestyle, eating and drinking habits and physical activity also contribute to healthy sleep. Yet there are always times when you can not sleep. Then try the smiling, sleeping Buddha, a combination of mindfulness, breathing techniques, temperature regulation and a smile.

Step 1: Step in the Savasana pose

This step is very easy, because you only have to lie on your back. This posture is important because it enables you to take long, deep, full breaths more easily.

Step 2: Laugh and relax

By putting a small, comfortable smile on your face, you influence your mind. You only need a little bit of pressure on the muscles around your lips. You do not have to force or exaggerate anything. If someone were to look at you, he does not necessarily have to be able to see that you are smiling. This step is based on the idea that your mind not only affects your body, but also works the other way around. By laughing you let your brain know that everything is good, that you are safe and you feel content.

Step 3: Breath with your diaphragm

Imagine a Buddha statue, one with a big round belly. For this technique you do not need a big but soft belly. For that you have to breathe using your diaphragm. If you do so, you will notice that your abdomen is being filled and filled when you inhale and empty and flat again when exhaling. Breathing well allows the body to distribute oxygen better. If the body feels stress, that signal is spread through the parasympathetic nervous system. Rest is also distributed in this way. But the only way to get that peace signal is quiet breathing. To this end you breathe in three seconds, hold your breath and exhale in five seconds. Do not forget to keep smiling!

Step 4: Regulate your body temperature

When the body experiences stress, the body temperature changes. The temperature can then be both higher and lower. To force the body back to the normal 37 degrees celcius, you can put a wet cloth on the forehead. Depending on how you want to adjust the temperature, you can opt for hot or cold water.

I do hope that this blog will help you to fall faster in sleep and enjoy sleeping.

Do You Talk To Yourself? Find Out Why You Should!

You may think that the only people who talk to themselves are those confined within the walls of a mental institution. If you think like this, then you’re sorely mistaken!

Successful individuals talk to themselves all the time. If you’re still not sold on this idea, read through the reasons below to find out why it’s high time you should start having conversations with yourself.

You become more objective

When you talk to yourself, you tend to think of yourself in the third person. You (the voice) is the third person looking in from the outside. You can distance yourself from your inner thoughts, and you can look at yourself more objectively.

When you give yourself some options, you just may be surprised how often your ‘external’ self gives a different answer from what you were thinking about!

You can motivate yourself

A little pep talk won’t hurt you. In fact, it can help you plenty. Many people do talk to themselves right before they go on the big stage. Whether you’re preparing for a speech in front of hundreds of people, or you’re getting ready for a big game, you can motivate yourself verbally!

You remember more details

When you talk to yourself out loud, you tend to remember it better than if you were just thinking about it. It’s like you hear someone else speaking to you, and it just stands out in your memory.

For instance, if you’re practicing a presentation, you can try talking yourself through the process. The more you hear what you need to do, the easier and less difficult each step appears to be.

You can think more positively

If you’ve got a swarm of negative thoughts just ready to pounce on you when it’s quiet, well, you can block out the noise by talking positively with yourself. Say positive things out loud every time your inner voice tries to sabotage you with negative stuff!

You become more focused

When you talk to yourself, you listen. So, if you tell yourself whatever it is that you need to do, then you listen very carefully. This allows you to become more focused on the task at hand.

You feel better

When you unload your negative thoughts and talk your way out of all the negativity that surrounds you, then you’ll feel so much better after!

8 Simple Steps To Long Lasting Happiness And Fulfillment

We all want to live happy lives, don’t we? But the sad truth is that many people don’t get to live happy lives – they just waste away in their negativity. If you want to achieve long-lasting happiness and fulfillment, here’s how:

Know what you really want

You have to know what will make you happy, otherwise, no matter how hard you work, you’re never going to be satisfied. Having goals and dreams is important, but determining if it’s really going to make you happy is a more important question.

Live life to the fullest

You only get to live once, so live your life to the fullest. Have a bucket list of things you would like to do before you leave this world behind. Every time you tick off an item on your list, you’ll feel very happy!

Learn from your mistakes

Being afraid of failure is hard enough, but not learning from your mistakes is another matter altogether. If you never learn from your mistakes, then you wouldn’t be able to get to where you want to be!

Do what you love to do

If you’re stuck in a job you hate, then seek out the right job for you. If you don’t, then you’ll be trapped, and you’ll end up bottling all your resentment inside which will ultimately lead to negative thoughts.

Be grateful for what you have

You’ll always have something to be thankful for. Sometimes in our quest for happiness, we forget the people who’ve been behind us all along. Count your blessings and be grateful always.

Go outside your comfort zone

If you’re too afraid to leave your comfort zone, then you’ll find it hard to chase your dreams! Don’t be afraid to push your boundaries to find what truly makes you happy.

Have positive-minded friends

If you’re surrounded by positive people, then you’ll find yourself thinking positively all the time, too. You’ll feel happier and more fulfilled because you won’t be thinking bitter, negative thoughts.

Connect with yourself

How well do you really know yourself? If you don’t know who you are, then you’ll find it hard to define what really makes you happy, and what doesn’t. Knowing who you are is an important part of discovering the path to long-lasting happiness and fulfillment!

MAKE SURINAME THE CENTER FOR INTERNATIONAL TRAIN TRAVEL

SURINAME must resolutely withdraw the train card
Make SURINAME the center for international train travel

Without flying, but still traveling wonderfully between the three Guyana's. Definitely a dream that can really be realized through good policy. It is a strong initiative that will certainly encourage people to respond negatively, but even more so to encourage people to travel more ecologically.

And look: In the end, these doom-mongers are also making good use of traveling. For the coming period, there is certainly work to be done for the three Guyanese governments to work together to make a good travel product out of it.

Suriname can play an important pioneering role with the support of experts.

Pioneering role for Suriname

With a perfect long-term vision and mission, I believe that Suriname will be able to draw and earn a lot in this.
Transport by train seems to be an impossible puzzle, but it is to be done at this time in order to travel efficiently via air and road networks via a railroad (traveling between the three Guyana's).
Isn’t it not great for all of us to be able to act as the central hub. Why do not we all make Suriname then a real center for international train traffic.

All ingredients are present.

Suriname is good and has a great appearance as a country with the most green in the world. In the future it can further map out for the international train passengers.

The benefits for us as a country will be enormous and will bring about a certain economic spin off. Just think of the extra jobs that extra trade matters bring to an international train station, or the coordination of an extensive Inter Guyana’s train network.
In addition, travelers will also be more inclined to include a day to/from Suriname, Guyana or French Guiana in their travel plans. Furthermore, interested people will join. In addition, you will also gain more time to travel between the three Guyana's.

Long live the train, but can it be cheaper?

Every beginning will be severe and will cause teething problems, but nonetheless it will bring benefits and open ways to more possibilities. I am convinced that with today's technology, a train has far less CO2 emissions than an airplane. Check-in and check-out often cost you hours when flying and an airport is often outside the city, which also means a lot of time and frustration. I already place myself in such a unique train connection that runs along the three Guyana's. While traveling you will enjoy much more of the green landscape. You will make a pleasant stopover and yes, if you wish, you can make more comfortable comparisons with fellow travelers from all corners of the world. A train connection will also become a social service to transport people to and from various destinations. Furthermore, it contributes to a certain extent to our commitment to achieving the climate targets and keeping them manageable, you create many more jobs and our country can generate more. It seems a logical step for me and many others, but somewhere deep it remains silent for the time being. In addition, there are a few measures that would make rail passengers so much more comfortable. Simple reservation systems, and much more. Oh yes, maybe this railway of the future is also the new alternative to take your bike or something similar. The possibilities are there, the tracks are there, the lines are there, now the countries have to sit together to coordinate everything.

Making the right choices

But unfortunately, the reverse choices have been made in recent years. Where this would be, I leave you as a reader to ravel about it. What I can say is that it is not too late to get back on the right track.
The sometimes incomprehensible evolution can certainly be better understood later on and development can be rolled out effortlessly.

For me, the three Guyana's of the future is a unique part of the continent of South America where ecological and responsible travel is the easiest and cheapest choice for travel within the borders.

The three Guyana's where the card for the train is decisively pulled, with less CO2 emissions, less time loss and more travel pleasure as a result.

Certainly know that the world traveler is ready, now politics has to follow and the right choices are to be made.

This is only a real trigger for anyone who thinks positively and certainly has faith that things can actually be realized.

The Caribbean Blog Authority keeps a close eye on developments in the world and has a passion for various things that influence our lives both internally and externally. As a little Futurist / Trend Watcher, he will continue to trigger in length of days. Continue to follow him via www.blogzynergy.com

7 Reasons Why Laughter Really Is The Best Medicine

There’s no denying the fact that having a sense of humor is important. It helps heal wounds, mend relationships, and generally brings about positive things to your life. Laughing won’t cost you anything, it’s free and is readily available. Here are the top reasons why you should consider laughing more often:

It lessens the negative effects of stress

When you’re feeling stressed out, hang out with someone you know can make you laugh. Someone who knows which buttons to push to draw out laughter from you. You’ll feel much better after and you’ll feel like a ton of weight has been lifted off your shoulders.

It makes you feel happy

Look at the way children laugh. They laugh with so much abandon that you’ll find yourself laughing along with them. A child’s uninhibited laughter is contagious. It really does make you feel happy.

It makes you think positively

When you laugh you forget your worries for a brief period of time. Your thoughts get diverted from negativity to positivity. Watch your favorite comedy on TV or on YouTube, and you’ll forget whatever it was that was bothering you!

It helps ease the pain

When you’re sick, you feel pain when you move around. You think dark thoughts that aren’t really helping you recover from your illness. With laughter, however, you are able to ease the pain even for just a bit. You’ll probably still be sick, but at least you’ll be more comfortable as your mind is no longer focused solely on your pain.

It makes you more resilient

No matter what life throws at you, if you have a sense of humor, you can get through almost anything. You’ll have negative thoughts after something catastrophic happens to you, but with your humor, you’ll always find a way out of the darkness.

It makes you feel relaxed

Laughter can help you overcome your negative thoughts. Once that’s out of the way, you’ll feel so much better. You’ll feel happier, and you’ll feel more relaxed. When you’re around other people, you’ll be more open to meaningful and fun conversations.

It strengthens relationships

When you share laughter with other people, it makes you feel closer to them. You share a special bond that laughing together has created. As long as you don’t laugh at someone else’s expense, then you’re building strong and positive relationships with people.

WHY NUTRITION, SLEEP AND EXERCISE ARE IMPORTANT FOR SUCCESS

No matter who you are, but as human I like to share the following with all of you…

Be honest: how well do you take care of yourself? Or are you also such a hard worker? The care for your health should actually come first, even before your work. If you are not healthy, you can not be successful. In this way, nutrition, sleep and exercise (not) contribute to your success:

Nutrition If you are at work from early in the morning, you will have a raging hunger at lunchtime. You long for a hearty lunch, such as a thick slice of bread or pasta salad. Whether you give in to high-calorie food, such as a croquette. Recognizable? Have you ever thought about what a carbohydrate and calorie-rich lunch does with your productivity? A few hours later, the inevitable energy dip follows. For that reason, many people drop in at noon. Research shows that if you eat more fruit and vegetables during lunch, your afternoon is not only more productive. You also feel more involved in your work and even happier. The best you can eat in the course of the morning,so that you have enough of a tasty salad with fresh vegetables or fruit during lunch.

Sleep
Work can take a lot of time. Do you already work before the sun goes up and do you stop working when the sun is (almost) under? Do you check your email in the evenings or do you just walk behind the computer to finish something after dinner? Small chance that your body gets enough rest. Rest is important, because a sleep deprivation can not only lead to more stress. You can also suffer from your cholesterol. A lack of sleep can even lead to reduced cognitive abilities. In other words, your performance will suffer if you do not get enough rest. What to do? Maintain fixed work and sleep times. Get up when the alarm goes off and plan some time at the end of the day to let go of your work. Avoid sleeping late, because then you disturb your sleep rhythm.

Movement

Exercise helps to relieve stress and to get away from daily worries at work. In addition, sports protect you from depression and other mental barriers to success. Often it does not work to allow yourself to go for a walk during the lunch or to exercise as soon as you get home. In the issues of the day you forget your intention easily. In the evening you often give priority to your work (or TV). Therefore make movement a part of your daily schedule. Put in your agenda for half an hour to an hour and stick to it. After exercising you feel lighter, more energetic and happier. You can do more physically and also mentally you can have more. That too contributes to success.

What are you doing to take care of yourself? Share it below in the comments!

Entrepreneurs Sex is also healthy for your business. Here Eight Benefits of Sex for you.

Hello Everyone…

Don’t forget that who or whatever you are, you must know this as well. Keep in mind that your HOT sexual well-being is going hand in hand with your overall mental, physical and emotional health.Yes TRUE…So just don’t stop having fun doing SEX. This word can evoke tons of emotions. Let me share EIGHT sweet benefits of SEX for you and your partner.Boom Boom !!!

Resistance
Research shows that subjects who had sex once or twice a week had thirty percent more immunoglobulin A in their saliva than students who were less active in bed. Immunoglobulin A is an antibody that protects you against intruders such as bacteria and viruses

Aging
People with an active sex life see honor five to seven years younger. The reason for this is not known, but it is probably due to a higher level of the anti-aging hormone DHEA.

Stress
Are you stressed? Sex helps you relax. Volunteers who underwent the stress test, such as speaking in public or having maths assignments, were found to suffer less from an increased blood pressure in an active sex life.

Burning calories
With half an hour of sex you burn 100 kilocalories or more. Maybe not as much as running or cycling around, but at least you do not have to go to the gym.

You live longer
Test subjects who have an orgasm at least three times a week are half less likely to have diseases. Sex twice a week reduces the chance of a heart attack in men. Sex namely boosts your heart rate. This makes your blood flow faster and that has a positive effect on your heart and blood vessels

You sleep better
Are you falling asleep? Sex helps! The liberated oxytocin has a soothing effect and makes it easier to get lost. Sleeping well has all kinds of other health benefits. This way you stay on weight better if you sleep enough.

You become more productive
Sex creates dopamine. As a result, you work with more pleasure the next day.

Muscles
During sex you can use all your 657 muscles. A good muscle tone improves your metabolism, posture and bone strength.

There must be more SEX benefits so don’t hesitate to fill the list further.

KEEP IT HOT HOT HOT…

In some other following blogs I will sure come back with some hot stuff. If you like it let me know in the comments.

GOOD MOOD CREATE GOOD SEX !!

DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU !!

Do you know the best way to get exhausted? Then ask yourself what others (of you) think:

Fantasize very intensely what they feel, think or want. Try to fill in all their thoughts, try to guess their opinion, try to take it into account.

Do that for a week and I’ll bet you’ll be dead …

Not a good idea!

Does this work?

Yet this is exactly what many people do. And it never works. That is not possible at all.

Short question: To what extent do you have your own thoughts under control? Do you determine exactly what you think? Is there never something unexpected or negative? Do you know exactly what your next thought will be?

No of course not…

A Gorilla in an astronaut suit

If you already have little control over your own thoughts, how much control do you have over what another person thinks?

Try to guess what I think now … (think carefully) …

I thought of a Gorilla in an astronaut suit!

Even if I had thought of something simpler, you would not have guessed it yet. Come on, see the reality: You have no control over what another person thinks!

Why are we so concerned about what others think? Why are we busy talking to others in our heads?

Oh yes, you do too: You see in your thoughts how someone else says something. You hear yourself respond. You feel the negative emotion.

And do you know what’s funny? Many of these conversations never took place! Not in reality, only in our fantasy …

Why do we fill in what others think?

Because we want to take this into account. We do not want them to say something bad. We worry what they think of us. We prefer to make a good impression. We want positive and healthy relationships with others. We want to be liked. We do not want a fight.

Because we are still nice?

All beautiful motives, but worrying about what someone else thinks, does not help you any further. Unless you have supernatural abilities. I do not have them and therefore prefer to do what someone else does or says.

What they think is entirely up to them. But what they do or say, I can respond to that.

Why are you responsible for the opinion of someone else?

Everyone has an opinion – about everything. But why are you responsible for that?

If I disapprove you because you (in my eyes) wear the wrong shoes, where is that the problem? The problem lies with my opinion about your shoes, not with you or the shoes themselves.

Do you see the difference?

Now you can worry about my mistaken opinion, but maybe I’m allergic to that kind of shoes. Maybe I knew someone who stood on my toes with that kind of shoes – and I had a lifelong trauma.

Maybe it all has little to do with you and therefore more with myself – and that is usually the case!

Can we change someone else’s opinion?

We often try to do it. We explain what we mean, we try to be extra nice, we do our best a bit more.

But why should we?

If someone else realizes that you are nice (and I assume that you are nice), then they will not see it later either.

Sometimes you can stand on your head, but the opinion of someone else just stands. Whatever you do, it does not change.

Suppose it would be the other way around: Would you appreciate it if the other person tried to change your opinion? Of course not. Everyone is entitled to an opinion …

This costs a lot of energy:

Try to fill in what others think.

You have no control over my thoughts – nor do I have your own.

You feel responsible for their opinion.

The opinion of another is only his or her responsibility.

Try to change that opinion.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion.

Let it go…

Here is a healthier and relaxed alternative: Just let go of what another person thinks.

Sticking your energy only in people who give you energy is one of the secrets of healthy relationships.

Of course you take account of others, of course you are social. That will not change. You only let go of what you do not have control over.

Three healthy alternatives:

Only fill in what you think yourself. That is the only thing that you have control over.
When in doubt about the opinion of another person: Just ask. Stop every fantasy and check reality. Then you do not have to doubt it either.
Give someone an opinion that is not yours. You do not have to walk around all day, so why can not someone have another opinion?

Letting go of what another person thinks will give you a lot of positive energy and relaxation.

Moreover; it gives you a tremendous liberation!

How do you let go of what others think?

How do you stop worrying about others and pay more attention to what YOU think?

Work on your Self-Confidence This is a good starting point. This gives you a healthy self-respect so that you take more account of your own wishes and your own feeling.

Work on better relationships, teach yourself to find the right balance between yourself and others. With this you learn to determine your own limits and to stay more with yourself.

Whatever you choose, do not stay busy with what others think, you (fortunately) do nothing about it!

I would like to hear your experience or question(s) about this subject

On your success! … IT IS NOT AN EASY ROAD !!

I am also a professional ZENKAI Lifestyle Coach, specializing in my personal growth who also gladly assist others in their personal growth. So I try to help people like you and me find more self-confidence, less stress, better relationships, more fun work and more happiness in their lives.