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Staying Close to Yourself in a Chaotic World

The world is restless and chaotic. How do you deal with that without losing yourself?

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Unrest is the new norm

The world has been restless for decades, of course, especially if you regularly check the news. But two foundations under our societies are changing faster and faster: technology and ecology.

Technology is improving at an exponential rate – the ecology is actually deteriorating faster and more visibly.

It creates a lot of turmoil in the world – and then in ourselves . Because the acceleration of these two factors, among others, leads to enormous economic and geopolitical changes and crises that we see unfolding before our eyes.

Violent developments seem to follow each other in rapid succession. It sometimes feels like we’ll never get ‘a break’ from just living our lives.

We are no longer in an era of change but in a change of era .

We have left the relatively stable ‘post-war’ world behind us. We are now well on our way to a new balance. And in the meantime we experience chaos, turmoil and uncertainty .

Exciting – even scary at times – and incredibly insecure. What do we do with that?

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1. Bring it back to yourself

No matter what’s happening in the world – you still have to load the dishwasher. And as far as I’m concerned, this is a great way to look at the situation.

You usually have virtually no control over world events . We are here with billions of people of which you are only one.

What can you do about a pandemic? What can you do about wars, about climate change?

There are always steps you can (and maybe should) take. But your influence is always limited. And it’s important to realize that.

You don’t have to save the world . And you can’t save the world. It’s not just your world – it belongs to all of us. It is therefore also our joint responsibility.

What can you do if you feel overwhelmed by world events? Here are things that work well for me – and many blogzynergy.com readers:

Stop constantly checking the news and social media. This prevents your brain from endlessly ‘chewing’ on issues that your brain can’t possibly solve. This reduces the feeling of restlessness, stress and powerlessness.
Rather choose to take the state of affairs in one go with some regularity. For example, by reading one newspaper or watching the news once.
Write in your journal about the things that make you restless. Write your thoughts on paper and describe your feelings. That way they don’t keep circulating in your head all the time.
Also immediately write down all the little things you are grateful for . That immediately gives more shine to your day.
Take a moment to “be mindful” of your feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety. Observe the sensation in your body without changing anything. Just let this feeling last for a while without running away. This gives the unrest the opportunity to ‘burn out’, after which you immediately feel calmer.
Investigate which practical steps you can actually take to make the situation better or less undesirable . Such as making your lifestyle more sustainable, cultivating compassion and taking the necessary measures.
Focus your attention on taking those steps. Action reduces anxiety . Do what needs to be done and you’ll feel better right away.
Practice rational fatalism . What has happened cannot be undone – even if it should never have happened. It is what it is – even if you mentally resist it. Fighting reality is always stressful . By accepting the current situation, you create a new starting point from which you can take your next step.
Try to focus your attention on the moment. Practice mindfulness , meditate, exercise, seek distraction. Do you tend to worry a lot? Then opt for physical activities. Such as working in the garden, cleaning, tidying up or helping someone else in the house.

Breathe in slowly and relax completely. The restlessness of the world need not make you restless . It is possible and allowed, but it is not necessary. You don’t control what happens around you – but you can control how you deal with it.

By making it clear to yourself what you do have control over, you will quickly reduce anxiety. Make your world smaller again and focus on practical steps.

2. Stay close to yourself

What do you think is important? Which values would you like to ‘live’? What do you want to stand for?

When we feel anxious, we quickly withdraw into a defensive position. You may prefer to curl up with a nice series, a bag of chips and a comfortable dress.

I know I feel that tendency in myself!

That’s okay – but it’s probably not who you want to be. It’s not the life you face .

It takes courage to live your values in exciting times. But you can practice with it step by step.

For instance:

Choose compassion where you would normally judge.
Choose love where you would choose fear.
Choose listening instead of giving advice.
Choose patience instead of presenting your opinion directly.
Choose generosity when you’d rather protect your stuff.
Choose calm breathing where you would normally fall back into restlessness.
Choose mindfulness where you would normally be distracted.

You’re going to fail at this all the time – that goes for all of us, including me. But it is valuable to stay close to yourself, especially in troubled times.

Because times will remain restless for the time being . So if you don’t do it now – when? Back straight, head up. Be brave and live in the way that satisfies you.

Move away from fear and anxiety . Live your values – so you can inspire others to do the same.

3. Give the best of yourself

Whatever happens – tomorrow the sun will rise again. Life goes on.

You can easily be paralyzed by undesirable events in the world. But does that make sense if you can’t control it anyway?

You have a life to live . So just do what needs to be done.

Loading the dishwasher, for example. But also take care of yourself and – very important – take care of others. Because heaven and earth can tremble – we are only in real trouble when we lose sight of ourselves and each other.

If you feel anxious, then so do others. Perhaps you can offer a listening ear. Maybe you can cheer someone up. Maybe you can make someone else’s life a little easier or more fun.

Maybe together you can provide a welcome distraction from all the misery in the media.

You may ask yourself, “How can I contribute? How can I offer the most value right now?”

You cannot control the world. But you can choose to add a little more love, a little more attention and a little more compassion.

Because you know how it works: societies are made up of people. Trade fear for love, and you’ve actually made society a little more loving .

Inspire others by living your values and your influence will increase even further.

The bigger the chaos, the simpler the solution:

Keep breathing calmly;
Focus on the next step;
Ask yourself, “What would love do?”

Sounds cheesy, but that’s the way it is. It works – that’s especially important to me.

I hope I was able to make your day a little brighter with these handles . The world will not become less chaotic any time soon. So it’s up to us to find ways to stay close to ourselves – even when the waters are choppy.

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25 questions to get to know yourself better…

Of course you want to develop yourself, but where do you start? Knowing yourself is a great start to the new year. These simple 25 questions can help you on your way.

Doubts about your job, your relationship, yourself? Sit down with these 25 questions and explore what’s behind the person you think you are. The better you know that, the easier it will be to make choices – and the happier you will be.

What does your ideal day look like?
Do you know what you do very well in your job? And what are your weaknesses?
Who inspires you? What qualities does that person have?
What’s the best way to relax?
Look around you all day long, what makes you happy?
When was the last time you dropped out somewhere? What was the reason? Do you have that more often?
Which compliments make your eyes shine?
Who are you jealous of? What does that person have that you don’t (yet) have? Jealousy is a pointer to hidden desires.
What are you afraid of?
What are you most proud of?

Suppose you win the State Lottery. What are you going to do? (after buying a house and a new car, traveling and giving away a lot of money?) And what’s stopping you from making that dream a reality now?
What makes you angry? Sad? Frustrated? So what do you actually need? Emotions also tell you what is important to you and who you are – deep inside.
What gives you energy?
Suppose your life ends today. Of all the things you didn’t do, what would you most regret?
So far, have you mainly made choices from your head or from your heart?
What characteristic of yourself do you run into over and over again? What is your pitfall?
Which parts of yourself (traits/characteristics) do you prefer to hide away? What positive qualities could be behind it?
What is your first memory of when you were happy?
How do you come across to other people? Does that match how you see yourself?
In which situation(s) do you experience tension or problems? Which limiting beliefs about yourself play a role in this?

What behavior was often ‘punished’ when you were a child (eg in class, or in your family)? What talent is hidden behind that?
What were the three happiest moments in your working life? And private?
What advice would you give to yourself at the age of five? eighteenth? twenty-fifth? Now?
Until now, have you been more like someone who happens to life or someone who designs life itself?
How would you like to be remembered at your funeral?

Why would you ask yourself these questions?

Self-knowledge makes your life more fun and easier. Logical, because in your work, in love, in friendships and everything else that concerns you, you yourself are the constant – and therefore the key to success. Coaches often see people who get stuck, don’t know what they want, are not happy in their relationship or work. The reason is often a lack of self-knowledge.

Many people operate on autopilot. They have learned certain behaviors and traits because they were once expected of them, but they hardly know what their deeper motivations and innate talents are. That also makes it difficult to determine your course. By asking yourself – preferably with a coach or therapist as a mirror – questions about what you naturally do well, what is important to you and what limiting thoughts or emotions you have, you come closer to yourself, and you automatically see which choices suit you.

This gives peace of mind and self-confidence, so that you increasingly do what feels good and not what other people find important. That is not selfish, on the contrary: if you are happy with what you do and do what suits you, others will feel it. It inspires.

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When life challenges you; When you want to be patient

Life doesn’t always go the way you want. And in the moments when it seems like you can’t take it anymore – be patient. Better times are coming. This blog article is dedicated especially for everyone who is/are going through difficulties.

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Everything will pass

Life tends to overwhelm us from time to time. That is difficult, because at such moments you can completely lose the overview. Not only does it feel like there’s no way out – it also seems like life will always be like this from now on.

But if life is good at one thing, it’s change.

Everything is temporary . Even if you feel like you’re all over it. Even if you don’t know how to keep your head above water. Change is always on the horizon, even if you can’t see it yet.

When you feel like you’ve been exposed to the elements, as if your bare skin is being cut by icy winds – know that this moment isn’t forever.

Life isn’t all about pancakes

No – sometimes it’s tough, challenging and overwhelming in all sorts of ways. We can always do our best to grow, to become stronger and to develop ourselves. We can read books, meditate, overcome fears, set goals, challenge ourselves to do things differently.

But weathering adversity —keep going when you’re bombarded by cutting headwinds— is often the only way to truly grow in the areas where growth is most needed for you . This is the resistance you need to become the person you need to be to overcome bigger challenges.

To become wiser, more powerful and more valuable to those around you. In a sense, this period of despair and adversity lays the foundation for a new life.

So often the deepest setbacks prove to be the most effective foundation for a deeper and more valuable life:

People go through a deep burnout and decide to use their lives to help others take better care of themselves.
Going through a serious illness or intense trauma allows you to provide more value to people going through the same thing.
People go through a deep depression and eventually discover for themselves that life is indeed worth living, and find deeper meaning and satisfaction.
There are those who lose everything – through a fire, bankruptcy, or some other tragedy – only to find that they can eventually find happiness even in the situation they feared most, offering tremendous inner freedom.
Because someone has broken your heart, you learn step by step about self-love and you manage to heal your heart, making you stronger than you otherwise would ever be.
As life tests you, with countless challenges simultaneously coming your way, you learn to stop fighting and surrender to what is . An insight that will help you find more peace for the rest of your life.

It is the most difficult periods that help us grow – help us mature . Who have made us who we are today, and who will shape us into who we are ten years from now.

You can’t control the weather

The icy storm is slicing into your skin – whether you like it or not. You can’t influence the weather, you can only influence the way you weather this storm.

Take the steps necessary to make the situation better. And at the same time know that life right now is exactly as it is, and no different. As you work to work through this situation, you can surrender to it.

It’s hard, that’s the way it is now . And it gets better, but now it is the way it is. And that’s okay.

Sometimes there is nothing you can do. Then throwing up is your only option . Surrender to the situation and be patient, waiting for better weather. Don’t keep wishing things were different, but take the time to work through this situation and grow stronger.

Life is not always easy. And your fierce resistance to change often makes it even more difficult. Like panicking in quicksand sucking you down deeper and deeper. Calm is strength . Patience and surrender will get you through this.

Everything is temporary. Even the deepest dips in your life. Take a deep breath, be kind to yourself, be patient. You can do this.

Lift yourself out of a difficult period

Are you going through a difficult period in your life right now? Don’t worry – you’re not alone. We may not be able to solve your problems in one fell swoop, but there are many steps we can take together . Always do your best how difficult it is. Don’t Give Up !!!

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The lazy ones with self-discipline

I don’t think I have a lot of discipline. But when I say this to people, they say it’s false modesty.

Because how can someone with little discipline write regularly, eat healthy , exercise enough, develop courses, keep his mailbox in order and meditate regularly ?

I thought about it, and I came to two conclusions :

Discipline is about doing things you don’t want to do . A lot of the things I do I like to do – so I don’t need discipline for it.
Once you do something often enough, you form a habit . And habits are almost automatic. And because they are almost automatic, you hardly need any discipline.

And that is exactly where I am.

Stop doing things you don’t want to do

I am a star at this. I think life is too short to deal with things I don’t want to do .

Okay – I’m not doing the VAT return with a smile. And I am not fond of making the bed . But even with this kind of task, I do my best to make it less annoying.

I streamline the VAT return process so that it becomes less tedious . I work with a checklist and because of that I am through it before I realize it.
I use making the bed as a mindfulness exercise . I change the sheets in full consciousness. At the end I am happy with a crisp clean bed, and I feel nice and calm and happy.

And for the rest I am very critical about the things I let in my life. If it doesn’t make me happy, doesn’t help me toward my goals, or doesn’t bring me satisfaction, it’s going to get out of my life (or not come in).

My standard answer is no . And only if the activity can convince me of its fantasticness, then maybe it will be yes.

Habits streamline your life

It works like dental plaque – just think about it. If you don’t brush your teeth for too long, you get the jitters and you start brushing . The threshold at which you can no longer tolerate it is different for everyone. And you can train that threshold.

For example: if I don’t meditate for too long I get the jitters. So I’m going to meditate. I can’t help but meditate .

I get the jitters after a few days. And I’m working on getting them in just one day. Because I know – the more I meditate, the better my life gets.

Habits streamline your life. They ensure that you no longer have to think and feel no resistance. You just do it – because you’re used to it.

Building habits is one way to invest your willpower . For a few weeks, you use your willpower to push yourself into a new habit. And once the habit is ingrained, you don’t need willpower anymore.

Then that willpower is released and you can invest it in a new habit. And that works like a charm.

I’m a productive lazy cat

Really and truly. I would prefer to play games and laze about every day . But I can’t , because I have all kinds of fun things to do and because I get the jitters if I don’t do certain useful things .

What I do when I don’t feel like working

Like everyone else, sometimes I don’t feel like working. Fortunately, I found a way to deal with that productivity.

I’m a bit drawn out

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I like my job. I love writing blogs. But not always. And sometimes that’s a problem, because things just have to happen . When you work for an employer, you pull yourself together and just do as you are asked. But that’s not how it works when you work for yourself.

I can manage my own time. So if I don’t feel like working I can just daydream all afternoon without anyone getting mad at me. With the exception of my future self, of course. Because if I’ve procrastinated in the past, I’ll have to pay for it now , and that doesn’t make me happy.

Anyway, if I don’t feel like working then I will postpone. Hanging out on YouTube, playing useless games or chatting about useless games.

But like I said, sometimes things just have to happen.

So what do I do? I’m doing something crazy.

I release myself

Precisely. I release myself. Now I have a huge toolkit of techniques to reduce procrastination (you can create your own toolkit) . But if the task has some slack, this is my favorite technique. If I find that I don’t want to work, I give myself permission not to work .

I say to myself, “Fine, you don’t have to work. You have the rest of the day off.”

That feels very nice. Why? In the first place because being free is just nice. It means I can get on with YouTube and do other things guilt-free . Being lazy without feeling like you should be doing something is the best form of being lazy.

It feels like summer vacations when I was a teenager. No responsibilities, no obligations, no homework. Pure fantastic-ness.

By letting go of myself, a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Because if I think I should write a great article, but I can’t do it, I feel bad. Then I consider myself a loser. And that feels terrible.

But if I tell myself it’s fine. I do not need to write if I do not want. Then I feel light and free.

And then something even crazier happens .

I feel like working!

Yep. That’s how it almost always works. I tell myself, “I can game for the rest of the day if I want.”

And then I feel so free that I often think, “Okay, you know what – I’ll just write this article and then I’ll just relax.”

And suddenly there is an article on my screen . And that feels good. After which I think to myself: “Hmm – I’ll answer these emails before I start gaming.” And voilà, the mailbox is empty!

Sometimes I put my laptop away at this point and do indeed relax. But often one leads to the other. And my to-do list is finished and I don’t even feel the need to game anymore.

In fact, I often feel so happy and energized from completing tasks that I decide to go for a run or do something useful.

Nice stuff.

I Just change my mind

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The situation does not change. Just changing my mind about the situation. And this makes me suddenly behave very differently.

Because if I don’t, I’m going to stare at my screen all afternoon without doing anything. That I might as well do something else useless that makes me happy. And as soon as I allow myself that, it suddenly becomes much less annoying to work for a while.

And you know – often this is also the best remedy for procrastination in the future. For the bow cannot always be tense. If I don’t feel like working, it’s often because I’m tired or stressed. A bit of lounging around will make me feel like tomorrow.

Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? Perhaps the strange technique will help you too. Give yourself the freedom to your tasks do not perform, and see what happens.

You may also suddenly feel like finishing a few tasks. Doesn’t it help you? No worries. Set up your own list to help you reduce procrastination.

How to become Mentally Strong and Calm your Mind

Everyone desires to live a balanced and healthy life, and this reflects in the type of foods we choose to eat or ignore, exercising our body regularly, and seeing a doctor when we feel the symptoms of sickness. There is another aspect to our overall well-being that most people rarely give the right attention to; mental health.

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Think about it for a minute: when was the last time you assessed your mental health, and what are you consciously doing to improve your mental state?

If you barely know the simple routines you can start to practice today to improve your brain function and mental health, these next tips will suffice.

1. Practise Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a therapeutic technique that is achieved when you become fully aware of your present moment. It makes you accept and own up to your thoughts, emotions, feelings, and body sensations without judgment, denying, or shying away from them.

It encourages you to live in the moment, such that you’re not anxious about what the future holds, nor are you worried about any negative experiences of the past.

To practice this, you can start by becoming more conscious of your everyday routine and take note of how your mind and body react to smells, sounds, or even tastes.

This awareness may not happen overnight, as you could even fail to notice as much as you should. But if you persevere, it’ll become second nature and improve your mental health.

2. Stop Excessive Thinking

Have you ever felt so lost in thought that you forget about your present environment? If you’re in the habit of overthinking about anything, make up your mind from now on to stop; Because it does more harm to your mental health than good.

If you find yourself overthinking, try doing these:

A. Incorporate 15 minutes of Thinking Time into your daily routine and keep to it. When your time is up, move on with other activities.

B. Focus only on things you can control, and instead of thinking about a problem too much, start by writing out 5-10 solutions. It will challenge and calm your thoughts.

C. Move on to something else; a project, an activity, etc that can distract you.

3. Be Organized

One of the underlying causes of poor mental health is disorders. It could be at work or even at home, but it always has the same effects every time.

Here are some of the best ways to organize for your mental health:

A. Break down your goals into bite-sized pieces that make them easier to achieve.

B. Remove distractions and declutter.

C. Perfection is great to attain, but normalize your desire to make everything perfect; it often puts you under too much mental pressure.

4. Regular Exercise:

When some people hear ‘exercise,’ what comes to their mind is running on a treadmill or doing something as strenuous as lifting weights, but exercise does not always have to be that way.

Exercise can be as simple as taking a 10-minute walk. Engaging in regular workouts gives you clearer thoughts and memories, helps reduce stress, and allows you to sleep well at night.

If you are struggling with staying consistent with your workout routine, you can enroll in a gym close to you; that way, you can connect with other people who could hold you accountable.

5. Practise Gratitude:

This simply means you are thankful for the things you have, rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Practicing gratitude sounds very easy, but it could be challenging, especially during tough times.

However, once you master it, you tend to live a happier and more fulfilling life. You may have observed that people who practice gratitude are more optimistic about life than those who do not.

Make it a habit to write out at least things 5 you are grateful for every morning. This would help set the tone of your day the right way.

6. Take a break from Social Media:

With the increasing rate of cyberbullying, social comparison, and toxicity on social media, taking social media breaks is not an option but a necessity for the sake of your sanity.

We can’t deny the fact that social media has bridged the communication gap that existed before the introduction of the internet and social media. But we also know that it can cause anxiety, undue pressure, mental fatigue that comes from too much comparison, and the need to be available online most of the time.

Take a break from social media from time to time; your mental health will thank you for that.

7. Open Up To Someone

Let’s admit it, talking to someone else about your mental health might not seem like an option you prefer, but it is one of the best ways to a speedy recovery. It is okay to look vulnerable at times like this, but once you get the mental help you need, you could be the one extending the same support to others.

A. Ideally, if you have a friend or family member you can confide in, go ahead and talk to them about your mental state.

B. On the other hand, you may prefer to remain anonymous and join an online support group where you can bare all your worries.

C. If that still doesn’t work for you, consider booking an appointment with a doctor or find a local support group that can help you every step of the way.

If you practice any of these, you’ll see lots of improvement in your mental health.

Some people benefit from being naturally mentally tough, but it can be taught to those who aren't

Getting Grip On Your Life Is Simple & Cheap

JUMP IN AND READ THIS . . .

Know yourself

If you want to get what you want, you first have to know what you want.
Many people have no idea what they really want.
Too busy scrolling, running and clicking.
By definition, if you don’t know what you want, you can never get what you want.
Because even if you had what you really long for, you wouldn’t recognize it as such.
Think of the entrepreneur with a laptop on his lap.
Working hard until late at night.

So that one day there.
Time is for the other.

The other one who is now staring glassily ahead.
Next to that entrepreneur on the couch.

Who is so busy with that screen.
And has no eye for the other.

Make it measurable

As soon as you know what you really want (that’s less than you think) you have to break that life mission into concrete goals.

Specific.

A word I like to use.
In a world where I see more and more people using more and more vague language.
The benefit of vague language: Vague goals.
The advantage of vague goals: It is not clear that you will not achieve them.

The advantage of being unclear about not controlling your shit: less pain.

The advantage of less pain: No incentive to change anything.

And so everything remains as it is.
The result of the above cycle: Anesthesia for the pain that you feel that you are not living the way you want to live.
I wish you pain if you don’t live the way you want to live now.
So that you can do something about it.
Now it’s still possible.

Levers!

If you have made your goals concrete, you want to look for the leverage for each goal:
That one thing that takes care of almost all the results.
Remember: Sometimes you have to do one thing right and the rest changes along with it.

If you want to live a healthier life, you can buy the most expensive supplements, worry about what material your yoga mat is made of and how many degrees the perfect angle is for your shoulder press and hardly achieve results. Or you don’t worry about anything and only focus on one thing: eating 500 grams of vegetables every day (leverage).

And you will notice that everything starts to improve positively. From your appearance to your energy, injuries and emotions.

Break up and schedule
You then break that lever down into small concrete tasks and processes.
And after all, you plan it in your agenda with a start and end time.

Dream big and blurry.
Plan small and concrete.

I have gone through the above process for you on the four most important pillars of life:
• Vitality
• Power
• Link
• Trust

Getting a grip on your life before you die is simple and cheap.
As long as you use the right structure and always keep refining.

Join the winning minority.
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The Next Optimistic Big Thing: RELAX YOURSELF IN three STEPS

If you would like to relax further, we’ve a bent to ought to first discover where the availability of tension lies. you will only solve one factor you understand, can’t you? The following 3 queries will assist you notice that provide. Use the knowledge with each question to unhitch that tension.

Question 1:

What do i need from myself if necessary? The first offer of tension is your own high expectations. you have got need to attempt to to everything, but why? unit of measurement you not too exhausting on yourself? you will forever do further, but can that give you with further relaxation? for the most part not. Relaxation arises from rental go of high expectations that are not realistic. So raise yourself: What do I expect from myself? And why exactly?

therefore someone once same to conifer State, “I expect to be the nicest.” area unit you able to imagine what amount tension that creates? there is forever someone United Nations agency is even further fun. “I’ll merely be myself”, sounds much more relaxed and realistic …

Tip 1: Allow Yourself to Relax

Take a ways in which from that vital voice in your head. It offers energy to not got to do everything any more. you will do one thing, but do i want to? that’s what it’s about…

Question 2: What Am I Creating A Trial to Check?

The second offer of tension is desperate to keep management. significantly relating to the things we’ve little influence on. Others desperate to modification or management the long-standing time might be a direction for tension. you can’t combine anyway, thus you’d higher accept that. The reason for management is concern. we’ve a bent to stand live afraid that if we have a tendency to don’t check one factor, it should fail. thus raise yourself:

What exactly am I afraid of? do not be afraid by this question, it’s very positive! it’s given that you perceive what you concern that you {just} just have discovered the second offer of tension. Are you terrified of what another person would say? unit of measurement you distressed what might happen? many of these things unit of measurement out of your management – a minimum of not presently. In our head we’ve a bent to undertake and management what we’ve a bent to cannot management in purpose of truth. This realization is one in all the variations between stressed and relaxed people

Tip 2: Trust Yourself

Trust your own ability to shock the challenges that come your manner. as a results of the only real answer to concern is trust. With enough confidence in yourself, you’re troubled less relating to the things you have got got no management over.

Question 3: What Am I Examination my things to now?

The third offer of tension is examination yourself. you will compare yourself to others. but there is forever someone United Nations agency can on top of you. you will compare your current state of affairs in conjunction with your past, but why would you? The past is not on top of presently, as a results of you reside presently, not before. It’s very exhausting to be tense if you are doing not compare yourself. Try it out. raise yourself: What am I examination my things to now? once you are feeling tension, there is nearly forever a comparison. Or with others, or with the past, or in conjunction with your own ideal image …

TIP 3: Jettisoning of any equation

This takes follow, but with patience you will undoubtedly succeed. you are doing not got to compare yourself or your state of affairs to one thing. you are doing not got to be higher, you merely got to be yourself. Relaxed living is not difficult . You just need to be compelled to analyze where your tension comes from. they are sometimes an analogous sources of tension that come back daily. They call this a pattern, one factor that repeats itself. that is smart news!

Why? Well, for two reasons: First, it is not many patterns that build tension. There unit of measurement generally merely variety of. thus you are doing not got to modification m things. With these 3 tips you will already convert ninetieth of your stress into relaxation and positive energy. If your bicycle tire is flat, there is generally only one hole that you {just} just need to be compelled to repair. One – not three hundred.

Now you will continue! Second, a pattern that you {just} just acknowledge and resolve rarely returns. According to the bicycle metaphor: several folks still cycle with a tyre. They never discover the gap at intervals the bicycle tire. If you’re doing take the issue to investigate where your tension comes from, then you will solve it. And everything you solve won’t come back!

Also Read this article:

https://www.healthline.com/health/stress/how-to-relax

Exercise in letting go of control

Letting go of control seems almost impossible. How do you let go of control when you’re afraid things will go wrong? How can you let go of what you fear? Still, letting go of control is possible, with the insights in this article.

The more control we want, the more tension we get in return. Because many things can we just can not control.

There are 3 simple questions that hardly anyone asks themselves. When you answer these questions, you automatically let go. And you can apply this to any area of your life.

Letting go gives you relaxation, confidence and inner strength. Let it go!

What can you control – and what not?

We have no control over the future, because no one knows exactly what will happen. We have no control over other people because they just do what they want to do.

If you think carefully, you will see that you cannot control many situations and people. You really only have control over what you do – here and now .

If you can’t change something, you can only accept and let go. This often feels unnatural, because control is part of our system. We have the illusion that we can influence almost everything.

Well, if it were, your life would be absolutely perfect, wouldn’t it?

Then you had already arranged that yourself …

Exercise in letting go – in every area.

You can apply the following exercise in any area of your life. You can practice this every day, in any situation. It does not matter whether it is about letting go of financial worries, relationship problems or worries about the future.

Letting go is the solution to all stress and worries. The essence is always this: too much control creates tension. In any field!

When you try to control something, something controls you too.
When you let go of something, you are free.

The next time you feel tension, ask yourself the following three questions:

Letting go of control – question 1: What am I trying to control?

What is causing my inner turmoil? Do I want a guarantee for the future? Am I trying to determine what someone else should do? Am I concerned with the past? What makes me feel insecure?

Find the core of that tension. What are you trying to control or change? For instance:

1. I regret that I made that choice then.
2. Why did he do it that way?
3. I hope he keeps his promises!
4. She won’t react like that again, will she?
5. I want the assurance that this choice is the best for my future.
6. I hope everything goes well next week.

Then ask yourself the following question:

Letting go of control – question 2: Can I actually control that?

That’s a simple question that most people never ask themselves.

Can you really change this? Do you really influence here? Is this within your control?

There are two options:

a) Yes, you can do something about this. Great – stop worrying and do it!
b) No, you have no influence (anymore) on this. Then you can only accept this and let it go.

Letting go of control – question 3: Am I willing to let it go?

We usually do not get around to this step either. We intellectually understand that we have to let go of something, but we just don’t want or ca n’t.

Why not? Because we still feel too many negative emotions: fear, uncertainty, doubt, regret, frustration, etc.

Yet there is one very good reason to let it go: Because letting go helps yourself . Because you hold with yourself disadvantage . It’s just in your best interest.

And after you make this decision, your emotions automatically start to change. Then your emotions become positive and relaxed again.

Make the decision now:

“Yes, I realize that I am only hurting myself by sticking to what I cannot (anymore) change at the moment. In the interest of my own mental and physical health, I decide to let go of this. I know it will make me feel better. So I am willing to let it go. ”

The final step: Let it go!

Now you have seen what you are trying to control. You have seen that you cannot control it. You know you have to let it go. And you are willing to actually let it go.

Congratulations! Now you are ready for the final step: Let it go!

Use a short sentence (also called a belief, affirmation, autosuggestion, or mantra) to help you through this step.

Your own words are always the best!

Here are some examples you can use:

1. It’s okay.
2. I let go.
3. It is the way it is.

4. I’m at peace with it.
5. I forgive myself.
6. I forgive him / her.

7. I accept it.
8. It’s good enough.
9. I let it rest.

Pay attention! This exercise is not a one-off.

You will have to repeat this often. It is an illusion that we suddenly start to feel everything differently. But you will definitely feel different when you practice with this!

There is no other option: repetition is the mother of every skill.

And lasting relaxation is the result of regular practice of letting go.

Relaxation becomes a habit if you keep practicing.

Keep in mind that sooner or later check comes up again and says:

“Hey, not too relaxed! Come on, we have so much to plan, check, change. You still have to worry, worry and think about the past. You still have to worry about everything! ”

Control is a habit – and habits keep coming back. Especially in the beginning. But keep practicing.

You will find that each layer you release in one area helps you in other areas as well. If you let go of control at work, you can also do that in your relationships. The gist is always the same, remember?

Let it goooooo!

Letting go is an art that you can refine throughout your life. There is no end point, we can always let go of something deeper.

To say it with Elsa from the animated film ‘Frozen’: Let it goooooo!

FROZEN | Let It Go Sing-along | Official Disney UK - YouTube

With every layer of tension you release, you gain access to a hidden layer of energy and well-being. Do you have any idea how many extra layers of energy and well-being are still waiting for you? Can you imagine how good you would feel learning to tap it?

Do you want to find out? Do you want more relaxation and more energy?

Go on research and make the best choice to take actions….

CHANGE/ADJUST YOUR BELIEFS/LIFESTYLE. . .

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Hello world,

In the so called new normal where COVID-19 is rolling over all screen around the world, we must not forget to pay sufficient attention to ourselves and love once. From my side I went to do some research which I am sharing in this blog item. I do hope that you as reader and follower can find yourself in the different circumstances. I wish you happy reading. It’s all about you yourself and your environment.

FIRST IMPRESSIONS ARE LASTING

If you were raised by parents who continually told you what a good person you were, who loved you, encouraged you, supported you, and believed in you, no matter what you did or didn’t do, you would grow up with the belief that you were a good and valuable person. By the age of three, this belief would lock in and become a fundamental part of the way you view yourself in relation to your world. Thereafter, no matter what happens to you, you would hold to this belief. It would become your reality.

If you were raised by parents who did not know how powerful their words and behaviors could be in shaping your personality, they could very easily have used destructive criticism, disapproval, and physical or emotional punishment to discipline or control you. When a child is continually criticized at an early age, he soon concludes that there is something wrong with him. He doesn’t understand why it is that he is being criticized or punished, but he assumes that his parents know the truth about him, and that he deserves it. He begins to feel that he is not valuable or lovable. He is not worth very much. He must therefore be worthless.

Almost all personality problems in adolescence and adulthood are rooted in what psychologists refer to as love withheld. The child needs love like roses need rain. When children feel unloved, they feel unsafe and insecure. They think, “I’m not good enough.” They begin to engage in compensatory behaviors to make up for this inner anxiety. This sense of love deprivation is manifested in misbehavior, personality problems, bursts of anger, depression, hopelessness, lack of ambition, and problems with people and relationships.

YOU ARE BORN UNAFRAID

The child is born with no fears, except those of falling and loud noises. All other fears have to be taught to the child as he or she grows up.

The two major fears we all develop are the fear of failure or loss and the fear of criticism or rejection. We begin to learn the fear of failure if we are continually criticized and punished when we try some- thing new or different. We are shouted at and told, “No! Get away from there! Stop that! Put that down!” Physical punishment and the withholding of love, possibilities that scare us and make us feel insecure, often accompany these shouts and criticisms.

We soon begin to believe that we are too small, too weak, incompetent, inadequate, and incapable of doing anything new or different. We express this feeling with the words, “I can’t, I can’t, I can’t.” Whenever we think about doing something new or challenging, we automatically respond with feelings of fear, trembling, and a churning stomach. We react exactly as if we are afraid of getting a spanking. We say, “I can’t” over and over.

The fear of failure is the primary reason for failure in adult life. As the result of destructive criticism in childhood, we hold ourselves back as adults. We sell ourselves short. We quit before we even try the ﬁrst time. Instead of using our amazing minds to ﬁgure out how to get what we want, we use our reasoning ability to create reasons why we can’t, and why the things we want are not possible for us.

THE NEED TO BE LOVED

The second major fear that holds us back, undermines our conﬁdence, and destroys our desire for a happy life is the fear of rejection, and its expression, criticism. This emotion is learned in early childhood as the result of our parents expressing disapproval of us whenever we do something they don’t like, or don’t do something that they expect. As a result of our displeasing them, they become angry and withdraw the love and approval we need so much as children.

The fear of being unloved and alone is so traumatic for a child that she soon conforms her behavior to do whatever she thinks her parents will approve of. She loses her spontaneity and uniqueness. She begins to think, “I have to! I have to! I have to!” She concludes, “I have to do whatever Mommy and Daddy want me to, or they won’t love me, and I’ll be all alone!”

CONDITIONAL LOVE

As an adult, a child raised with what is called “conditional love” (as opposed to unconditional love, the greatest gift one person can give to another) becomes hypersensitive to the opinions of others. In its extreme form, he cannot do anything if there is the slightest chance that someone else may not approve. He projects his childhood relationship with his parents onto the important people in his adult life—spouse, boss, relatives, friends, authority ﬁgures—and tries desperately to earn their approval, or at least not lose it.

The fears of failure and rejection, caused by destructive criticism in early childhood, are the root causes of most of our unhappiness and anxiety as adults. We feel, “I can’t!” or “I have to!” continually. The worst feeling is when we feel, “I can’t, but I have to!” or “I have to, but I can’t!”

We want to do something, but we are afraid of failure or loss, or if we are not afraid of loss, we are afraid of disapproval. We want to do something to improve our lives, at work or at home, but we are afraid that we may fail, or that someone else may criticize us, or both.

For most people, their fears govern their lives. Everything they do is organized around avoiding failure or criticism. They think continually about playing it safe, rather than striving for their goals. They seek security rather than opportunity.

DOUBLE YOUR RATE OF FAILURE

Once an author named by Arthur Gordon approached Thomas J. Watson Sr., the founder of IBM, and asked him how he could succeed faster as a writer. Thomas J. Watson, one of the giants of American business, replied with these profound words: “If you want to be successful faster, you must double your rate of failure. Success lies on the far side of failure.”

The fact is that the more you have already failed, the more likely it is you are on the verge of great success. Your failures have prepared you to succeed. This is why a streak of good luck seems to follow a streak of bad luck. When in doubt, “double your rate of failure. ”The more things you try, the more likely you are to triumph. You overcome your fears only by doing the thing you fear until the fear has no more control over you.

YOUR MENTAL HARD DRIVE

Everything you know about yourself, all your beliefs, are recorded on the hard drive of your personality, in your self-concept. Your self-concept precedes and predicts your levels of performance and effectiveness in everything you do. Because of the law of correspondence, you always behave on the outside in a manner consistent with your self-concept on the inside. All improvement in your life therefore begins with an improvement in your self-concept.

You have an overall self-concept that is made up of all your beliefs about yourself and your abilities. This bundle of beliefs includes all the experiences, decisions, successes, failures, ideas, information, emotions, and opinions of your life up to now. This general self-concept determines how and what you think and feel about yourself, and measures how well you are doing in general.

YOUR MINI-SELF-CONCEPTS

You have a series of “mini-self-concepts” as well. These mini-self- concepts combine to make up your overall self-concept. You have a self-concept for every area of your life that you consider important. This mini-self-concept determines how you think, feel, and perform in that area.

For example, you have a self-concept for how healthy and ﬁt you are, and how much you eat or exercise. You have a self-concept for how likable and popular you are with others, especially with members of the opposite sex. You have a self-concept for what kind of a spouse or parent you are, for how good a friend you are to your friends, how smart you are, and how well you learn. You have a self- concept for every sport you play, and for every activity you engage in, including how well you drive your car.

You have a self-concept for how well you do your work, and for how well you do each part of your work. You have a self- concept for how much money you make and how well you save and invest it. This is a critical area. The fact is that you can never earn much more or less than your self-concept level of income. If you want to make more money, you have to change your beliefs about yourself relative to income and money.

CHANGE YOUR BELIEFS

In every case, if you want to change your performance and your results in any area of your life, you have to change your self- concept—or your beliefs about yourself—for that area. Fortunately, your beliefs are largely subjective. They are not always based on facts. Instead, they are based largely on information you have taken in and accepted as true, sometimes with very little evidence or proof.

The very worst beliefs you can have are self-limiting beliefs of any kind. These are beliefs about yourself that cause you to feel somehow limited or deﬁcient in a particular area. These beliefs are seldom true, but if you accept them as valid estimates of your ability, they become true for you, exactly as if they were correct.

The starting point of unlocking your potential, and accomplishing more than you ever have before, is for you to challenge your self- limiting beliefs. You begin this process of freeing yourself from self-limiting beliefs by imagining that, whatever they are, they are completely untrue. Imagine for the moment that you have no limitations on your abilities at all. Imagine that you could be, do, or have anything you really wanted in life. Imagine that your potential is unlimited in any way. For example, imagine that you could be earning twice as much as you are earning today. Imagine that you could be living in a bigger house, driving a better car, and enjoying a more expensive lifestyle.

Imagine that you have the ability to be one of the top people in your ﬁeld. Imagine that you are one of the most popular, powerful, and persuasive personalities in your social and business world. Imagine that you are calm, conﬁdent, and unafraid of anything. Imagine that you could set and achieve any goal you put your mind to. This is how you begin changing your thinking and changing your life.

The starting point of eliminating your fears, and releasing your potential, is to reprogram your mental hard drive with new, positive, constructive, and courageous beliefs about yourself and your future. I really hope that you learned something more now you have read this blog.

Feel free to drop me your comments and maybe your very own COVID-19 lifestyle experiences. It will be highly appreciated. Thank you in advanced. Stay Safe and Blessings.

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