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When life challenges you; When you want to be patient

Life doesn’t always go the way you want. And in the moments when it seems like you can’t take it anymore – be patient. Better times are coming. This blog article is dedicated especially for everyone who is/are going through difficulties.

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Everything will pass

Life tends to overwhelm us from time to time. That is difficult, because at such moments you can completely lose the overview. Not only does it feel like there’s no way out – it also seems like life will always be like this from now on.

But if life is good at one thing, it’s change.

Everything is temporary . Even if you feel like you’re all over it. Even if you don’t know how to keep your head above water. Change is always on the horizon, even if you can’t see it yet.

When you feel like you’ve been exposed to the elements, as if your bare skin is being cut by icy winds – know that this moment isn’t forever.

Life isn’t all about pancakes

No – sometimes it’s tough, challenging and overwhelming in all sorts of ways. We can always do our best to grow, to become stronger and to develop ourselves. We can read books, meditate, overcome fears, set goals, challenge ourselves to do things differently.

But weathering adversity —keep going when you’re bombarded by cutting headwinds— is often the only way to truly grow in the areas where growth is most needed for you . This is the resistance you need to become the person you need to be to overcome bigger challenges.

To become wiser, more powerful and more valuable to those around you. In a sense, this period of despair and adversity lays the foundation for a new life.

So often the deepest setbacks prove to be the most effective foundation for a deeper and more valuable life:

People go through a deep burnout and decide to use their lives to help others take better care of themselves.
Going through a serious illness or intense trauma allows you to provide more value to people going through the same thing.
People go through a deep depression and eventually discover for themselves that life is indeed worth living, and find deeper meaning and satisfaction.
There are those who lose everything – through a fire, bankruptcy, or some other tragedy – only to find that they can eventually find happiness even in the situation they feared most, offering tremendous inner freedom.
Because someone has broken your heart, you learn step by step about self-love and you manage to heal your heart, making you stronger than you otherwise would ever be.
As life tests you, with countless challenges simultaneously coming your way, you learn to stop fighting and surrender to what is . An insight that will help you find more peace for the rest of your life.

It is the most difficult periods that help us grow – help us mature . Who have made us who we are today, and who will shape us into who we are ten years from now.

You can’t control the weather

The icy storm is slicing into your skin – whether you like it or not. You can’t influence the weather, you can only influence the way you weather this storm.

Take the steps necessary to make the situation better. And at the same time know that life right now is exactly as it is, and no different. As you work to work through this situation, you can surrender to it.

It’s hard, that’s the way it is now . And it gets better, but now it is the way it is. And that’s okay.

Sometimes there is nothing you can do. Then throwing up is your only option . Surrender to the situation and be patient, waiting for better weather. Don’t keep wishing things were different, but take the time to work through this situation and grow stronger.

Life is not always easy. And your fierce resistance to change often makes it even more difficult. Like panicking in quicksand sucking you down deeper and deeper. Calm is strength . Patience and surrender will get you through this.

Everything is temporary. Even the deepest dips in your life. Take a deep breath, be kind to yourself, be patient. You can do this.

Lift yourself out of a difficult period

Are you going through a difficult period in your life right now? Don’t worry – you’re not alone. We may not be able to solve your problems in one fell swoop, but there are many steps we can take together . Always do your best how difficult it is. Don’t Give Up !!!

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The lazy ones with self-discipline

I don’t think I have a lot of discipline. But when I say this to people, they say it’s false modesty.

Because how can someone with little discipline write regularly, eat healthy , exercise enough, develop courses, keep his mailbox in order and meditate regularly ?

I thought about it, and I came to two conclusions :

Discipline is about doing things you don’t want to do . A lot of the things I do I like to do – so I don’t need discipline for it.
Once you do something often enough, you form a habit . And habits are almost automatic. And because they are almost automatic, you hardly need any discipline.

And that is exactly where I am.

Stop doing things you don’t want to do

I am a star at this. I think life is too short to deal with things I don’t want to do .

Okay – I’m not doing the VAT return with a smile. And I am not fond of making the bed . But even with this kind of task, I do my best to make it less annoying.

I streamline the VAT return process so that it becomes less tedious . I work with a checklist and because of that I am through it before I realize it.
I use making the bed as a mindfulness exercise . I change the sheets in full consciousness. At the end I am happy with a crisp clean bed, and I feel nice and calm and happy.

And for the rest I am very critical about the things I let in my life. If it doesn’t make me happy, doesn’t help me toward my goals, or doesn’t bring me satisfaction, it’s going to get out of my life (or not come in).

My standard answer is no . And only if the activity can convince me of its fantasticness, then maybe it will be yes.

Habits streamline your life

It works like dental plaque – just think about it. If you don’t brush your teeth for too long, you get the jitters and you start brushing . The threshold at which you can no longer tolerate it is different for everyone. And you can train that threshold.

For example: if I don’t meditate for too long I get the jitters. So I’m going to meditate. I can’t help but meditate .

I get the jitters after a few days. And I’m working on getting them in just one day. Because I know – the more I meditate, the better my life gets.

Habits streamline your life. They ensure that you no longer have to think and feel no resistance. You just do it – because you’re used to it.

Building habits is one way to invest your willpower . For a few weeks, you use your willpower to push yourself into a new habit. And once the habit is ingrained, you don’t need willpower anymore.

Then that willpower is released and you can invest it in a new habit. And that works like a charm.

I’m a productive lazy cat

Really and truly. I would prefer to play games and laze about every day . But I can’t , because I have all kinds of fun things to do and because I get the jitters if I don’t do certain useful things .

What I do when I don’t feel like working

Like everyone else, sometimes I don’t feel like working. Fortunately, I found a way to deal with that productivity.

I’m a bit drawn out

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I like my job. I love writing blogs. But not always. And sometimes that’s a problem, because things just have to happen . When you work for an employer, you pull yourself together and just do as you are asked. But that’s not how it works when you work for yourself.

I can manage my own time. So if I don’t feel like working I can just daydream all afternoon without anyone getting mad at me. With the exception of my future self, of course. Because if I’ve procrastinated in the past, I’ll have to pay for it now , and that doesn’t make me happy.

Anyway, if I don’t feel like working then I will postpone. Hanging out on YouTube, playing useless games or chatting about useless games.

But like I said, sometimes things just have to happen.

So what do I do? I’m doing something crazy.

I release myself

Precisely. I release myself. Now I have a huge toolkit of techniques to reduce procrastination (you can create your own toolkit) . But if the task has some slack, this is my favorite technique. If I find that I don’t want to work, I give myself permission not to work .

I say to myself, “Fine, you don’t have to work. You have the rest of the day off.”

That feels very nice. Why? In the first place because being free is just nice. It means I can get on with YouTube and do other things guilt-free . Being lazy without feeling like you should be doing something is the best form of being lazy.

It feels like summer vacations when I was a teenager. No responsibilities, no obligations, no homework. Pure fantastic-ness.

By letting go of myself, a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Because if I think I should write a great article, but I can’t do it, I feel bad. Then I consider myself a loser. And that feels terrible.

But if I tell myself it’s fine. I do not need to write if I do not want. Then I feel light and free.

And then something even crazier happens .

I feel like working!

Yep. That’s how it almost always works. I tell myself, “I can game for the rest of the day if I want.”

And then I feel so free that I often think, “Okay, you know what – I’ll just write this article and then I’ll just relax.”

And suddenly there is an article on my screen . And that feels good. After which I think to myself: “Hmm – I’ll answer these emails before I start gaming.” And voilà, the mailbox is empty!

Sometimes I put my laptop away at this point and do indeed relax. But often one leads to the other. And my to-do list is finished and I don’t even feel the need to game anymore.

In fact, I often feel so happy and energized from completing tasks that I decide to go for a run or do something useful.

Nice stuff.

I Just change my mind

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The situation does not change. Just changing my mind about the situation. And this makes me suddenly behave very differently.

Because if I don’t, I’m going to stare at my screen all afternoon without doing anything. That I might as well do something else useless that makes me happy. And as soon as I allow myself that, it suddenly becomes much less annoying to work for a while.

And you know – often this is also the best remedy for procrastination in the future. For the bow cannot always be tense. If I don’t feel like working, it’s often because I’m tired or stressed. A bit of lounging around will make me feel like tomorrow.

Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? Perhaps the strange technique will help you too. Give yourself the freedom to your tasks do not perform, and see what happens.

You may also suddenly feel like finishing a few tasks. Doesn’t it help you? No worries. Set up your own list to help you reduce procrastination.

How to become Mentally Strong and Calm your Mind

Everyone desires to live a balanced and healthy life, and this reflects in the type of foods we choose to eat or ignore, exercising our body regularly, and seeing a doctor when we feel the symptoms of sickness. There is another aspect to our overall well-being that most people rarely give the right attention to; mental health.

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Think about it for a minute: when was the last time you assessed your mental health, and what are you consciously doing to improve your mental state?

If you barely know the simple routines you can start to practice today to improve your brain function and mental health, these next tips will suffice.

1. Practise Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a therapeutic technique that is achieved when you become fully aware of your present moment. It makes you accept and own up to your thoughts, emotions, feelings, and body sensations without judgment, denying, or shying away from them.

It encourages you to live in the moment, such that you’re not anxious about what the future holds, nor are you worried about any negative experiences of the past.

To practice this, you can start by becoming more conscious of your everyday routine and take note of how your mind and body react to smells, sounds, or even tastes.

This awareness may not happen overnight, as you could even fail to notice as much as you should. But if you persevere, it’ll become second nature and improve your mental health.

2. Stop Excessive Thinking

Have you ever felt so lost in thought that you forget about your present environment? If you’re in the habit of overthinking about anything, make up your mind from now on to stop; Because it does more harm to your mental health than good.

If you find yourself overthinking, try doing these:

A. Incorporate 15 minutes of Thinking Time into your daily routine and keep to it. When your time is up, move on with other activities.

B. Focus only on things you can control, and instead of thinking about a problem too much, start by writing out 5-10 solutions. It will challenge and calm your thoughts.

C. Move on to something else; a project, an activity, etc that can distract you.

3. Be Organized

One of the underlying causes of poor mental health is disorders. It could be at work or even at home, but it always has the same effects every time.

Here are some of the best ways to organize for your mental health:

A. Break down your goals into bite-sized pieces that make them easier to achieve.

B. Remove distractions and declutter.

C. Perfection is great to attain, but normalize your desire to make everything perfect; it often puts you under too much mental pressure.

4. Regular Exercise:

When some people hear ‘exercise,’ what comes to their mind is running on a treadmill or doing something as strenuous as lifting weights, but exercise does not always have to be that way.

Exercise can be as simple as taking a 10-minute walk. Engaging in regular workouts gives you clearer thoughts and memories, helps reduce stress, and allows you to sleep well at night.

If you are struggling with staying consistent with your workout routine, you can enroll in a gym close to you; that way, you can connect with other people who could hold you accountable.

5. Practise Gratitude:

This simply means you are thankful for the things you have, rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Practicing gratitude sounds very easy, but it could be challenging, especially during tough times.

However, once you master it, you tend to live a happier and more fulfilling life. You may have observed that people who practice gratitude are more optimistic about life than those who do not.

Make it a habit to write out at least things 5 you are grateful for every morning. This would help set the tone of your day the right way.

6. Take a break from Social Media:

With the increasing rate of cyberbullying, social comparison, and toxicity on social media, taking social media breaks is not an option but a necessity for the sake of your sanity.

We can’t deny the fact that social media has bridged the communication gap that existed before the introduction of the internet and social media. But we also know that it can cause anxiety, undue pressure, mental fatigue that comes from too much comparison, and the need to be available online most of the time.

Take a break from social media from time to time; your mental health will thank you for that.

7. Open Up To Someone

Let’s admit it, talking to someone else about your mental health might not seem like an option you prefer, but it is one of the best ways to a speedy recovery. It is okay to look vulnerable at times like this, but once you get the mental help you need, you could be the one extending the same support to others.

A. Ideally, if you have a friend or family member you can confide in, go ahead and talk to them about your mental state.

B. On the other hand, you may prefer to remain anonymous and join an online support group where you can bare all your worries.

C. If that still doesn’t work for you, consider booking an appointment with a doctor or find a local support group that can help you every step of the way.

If you practice any of these, you’ll see lots of improvement in your mental health.

Some people benefit from being naturally mentally tough, but it can be taught to those who aren't

Getting Grip On Your Life Is Simple & Cheap

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Know yourself

If you want to get what you want, you first have to know what you want.
Many people have no idea what they really want.
Too busy scrolling, running and clicking.
By definition, if you don’t know what you want, you can never get what you want.
Because even if you had what you really long for, you wouldn’t recognize it as such.
Think of the entrepreneur with a laptop on his lap.
Working hard until late at night.

So that one day there.
Time is for the other.

The other one who is now staring glassily ahead.
Next to that entrepreneur on the couch.

Who is so busy with that screen.
And has no eye for the other.

Make it measurable

As soon as you know what you really want (that’s less than you think) you have to break that life mission into concrete goals.

Specific.

A word I like to use.
In a world where I see more and more people using more and more vague language.
The benefit of vague language: Vague goals.
The advantage of vague goals: It is not clear that you will not achieve them.

The advantage of being unclear about not controlling your shit: less pain.

The advantage of less pain: No incentive to change anything.

And so everything remains as it is.
The result of the above cycle: Anesthesia for the pain that you feel that you are not living the way you want to live.
I wish you pain if you don’t live the way you want to live now.
So that you can do something about it.
Now it’s still possible.

Levers!

If you have made your goals concrete, you want to look for the leverage for each goal:
That one thing that takes care of almost all the results.
Remember: Sometimes you have to do one thing right and the rest changes along with it.

If you want to live a healthier life, you can buy the most expensive supplements, worry about what material your yoga mat is made of and how many degrees the perfect angle is for your shoulder press and hardly achieve results. Or you don’t worry about anything and only focus on one thing: eating 500 grams of vegetables every day (leverage).

And you will notice that everything starts to improve positively. From your appearance to your energy, injuries and emotions.

Break up and schedule
You then break that lever down into small concrete tasks and processes.
And after all, you plan it in your agenda with a start and end time.

Dream big and blurry.
Plan small and concrete.

I have gone through the above process for you on the four most important pillars of life:
• Vitality
• Power
• Link
• Trust

Getting a grip on your life before you die is simple and cheap.
As long as you use the right structure and always keep refining.

Join the winning minority.
Be the antivirus and break through

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The Next Optimistic Big Thing: RELAX YOURSELF IN three STEPS

If you would like to relax further, we’ve a bent to ought to first discover where the availability of tension lies. you will only solve one factor you understand, can’t you? The following 3 queries will assist you notice that provide. Use the knowledge with each question to unhitch that tension.

Question 1:

What do i need from myself if necessary? The first offer of tension is your own high expectations. you have got need to attempt to to everything, but why? unit of measurement you not too exhausting on yourself? you will forever do further, but can that give you with further relaxation? for the most part not. Relaxation arises from rental go of high expectations that are not realistic. So raise yourself: What do I expect from myself? And why exactly?

therefore someone once same to conifer State, “I expect to be the nicest.” area unit you able to imagine what amount tension that creates? there is forever someone United Nations agency is even further fun. “I’ll merely be myself”, sounds much more relaxed and realistic …

Tip 1: Allow Yourself to Relax

Take a ways in which from that vital voice in your head. It offers energy to not got to do everything any more. you will do one thing, but do i want to? that’s what it’s about…

Question 2: What Am I Creating A Trial to Check?

The second offer of tension is desperate to keep management. significantly relating to the things we’ve little influence on. Others desperate to modification or management the long-standing time might be a direction for tension. you can’t combine anyway, thus you’d higher accept that. The reason for management is concern. we’ve a bent to stand live afraid that if we have a tendency to don’t check one factor, it should fail. thus raise yourself:

What exactly am I afraid of? do not be afraid by this question, it’s very positive! it’s given that you perceive what you concern that you {just} just have discovered the second offer of tension. Are you terrified of what another person would say? unit of measurement you distressed what might happen? many of these things unit of measurement out of your management – a minimum of not presently. In our head we’ve a bent to undertake and management what we’ve a bent to cannot management in purpose of truth. This realization is one in all the variations between stressed and relaxed people

Tip 2: Trust Yourself

Trust your own ability to shock the challenges that come your manner. as a results of the only real answer to concern is trust. With enough confidence in yourself, you’re troubled less relating to the things you have got got no management over.

Question 3: What Am I Examination my things to now?

The third offer of tension is examination yourself. you will compare yourself to others. but there is forever someone United Nations agency can on top of you. you will compare your current state of affairs in conjunction with your past, but why would you? The past is not on top of presently, as a results of you reside presently, not before. It’s very exhausting to be tense if you are doing not compare yourself. Try it out. raise yourself: What am I examination my things to now? once you are feeling tension, there is nearly forever a comparison. Or with others, or with the past, or in conjunction with your own ideal image …

TIP 3: Jettisoning of any equation

This takes follow, but with patience you will undoubtedly succeed. you are doing not got to compare yourself or your state of affairs to one thing. you are doing not got to be higher, you merely got to be yourself. Relaxed living is not difficult . You just need to be compelled to analyze where your tension comes from. they are sometimes an analogous sources of tension that come back daily. They call this a pattern, one factor that repeats itself. that is smart news!

Why? Well, for two reasons: First, it is not many patterns that build tension. There unit of measurement generally merely variety of. thus you are doing not got to modification m things. With these 3 tips you will already convert ninetieth of your stress into relaxation and positive energy. If your bicycle tire is flat, there is generally only one hole that you {just} just need to be compelled to repair. One – not three hundred.

Now you will continue! Second, a pattern that you {just} just acknowledge and resolve rarely returns. According to the bicycle metaphor: several folks still cycle with a tyre. They never discover the gap at intervals the bicycle tire. If you’re doing take the issue to investigate where your tension comes from, then you will solve it. And everything you solve won’t come back!

Also Read this article:

https://www.healthline.com/health/stress/how-to-relax

Exercise in letting go of control

Letting go of control seems almost impossible. How do you let go of control when you’re afraid things will go wrong? How can you let go of what you fear? Still, letting go of control is possible, with the insights in this article.

The more control we want, the more tension we get in return. Because many things can we just can not control.

There are 3 simple questions that hardly anyone asks themselves. When you answer these questions, you automatically let go. And you can apply this to any area of your life.

Letting go gives you relaxation, confidence and inner strength. Let it go!

What can you control – and what not?

We have no control over the future, because no one knows exactly what will happen. We have no control over other people because they just do what they want to do.

If you think carefully, you will see that you cannot control many situations and people. You really only have control over what you do – here and now .

If you can’t change something, you can only accept and let go. This often feels unnatural, because control is part of our system. We have the illusion that we can influence almost everything.

Well, if it were, your life would be absolutely perfect, wouldn’t it?

Then you had already arranged that yourself …

Exercise in letting go – in every area.

You can apply the following exercise in any area of your life. You can practice this every day, in any situation. It does not matter whether it is about letting go of financial worries, relationship problems or worries about the future.

Letting go is the solution to all stress and worries. The essence is always this: too much control creates tension. In any field!

When you try to control something, something controls you too.
When you let go of something, you are free.

The next time you feel tension, ask yourself the following three questions:

Letting go of control – question 1: What am I trying to control?

What is causing my inner turmoil? Do I want a guarantee for the future? Am I trying to determine what someone else should do? Am I concerned with the past? What makes me feel insecure?

Find the core of that tension. What are you trying to control or change? For instance:

1. I regret that I made that choice then.
2. Why did he do it that way?
3. I hope he keeps his promises!
4. She won’t react like that again, will she?
5. I want the assurance that this choice is the best for my future.
6. I hope everything goes well next week.

Then ask yourself the following question:

Letting go of control – question 2: Can I actually control that?

That’s a simple question that most people never ask themselves.

Can you really change this? Do you really influence here? Is this within your control?

There are two options:

a) Yes, you can do something about this. Great – stop worrying and do it!
b) No, you have no influence (anymore) on this. Then you can only accept this and let it go.

Letting go of control – question 3: Am I willing to let it go?

We usually do not get around to this step either. We intellectually understand that we have to let go of something, but we just don’t want or ca n’t.

Why not? Because we still feel too many negative emotions: fear, uncertainty, doubt, regret, frustration, etc.

Yet there is one very good reason to let it go: Because letting go helps yourself . Because you hold with yourself disadvantage . It’s just in your best interest.

And after you make this decision, your emotions automatically start to change. Then your emotions become positive and relaxed again.

Make the decision now:

“Yes, I realize that I am only hurting myself by sticking to what I cannot (anymore) change at the moment. In the interest of my own mental and physical health, I decide to let go of this. I know it will make me feel better. So I am willing to let it go. ”

The final step: Let it go!

Now you have seen what you are trying to control. You have seen that you cannot control it. You know you have to let it go. And you are willing to actually let it go.

Congratulations! Now you are ready for the final step: Let it go!

Use a short sentence (also called a belief, affirmation, autosuggestion, or mantra) to help you through this step.

Your own words are always the best!

Here are some examples you can use:

1. It’s okay.
2. I let go.
3. It is the way it is.

4. I’m at peace with it.
5. I forgive myself.
6. I forgive him / her.

7. I accept it.
8. It’s good enough.
9. I let it rest.

Pay attention! This exercise is not a one-off.

You will have to repeat this often. It is an illusion that we suddenly start to feel everything differently. But you will definitely feel different when you practice with this!

There is no other option: repetition is the mother of every skill.

And lasting relaxation is the result of regular practice of letting go.

Relaxation becomes a habit if you keep practicing.

Keep in mind that sooner or later check comes up again and says:

“Hey, not too relaxed! Come on, we have so much to plan, check, change. You still have to worry, worry and think about the past. You still have to worry about everything! ”

Control is a habit – and habits keep coming back. Especially in the beginning. But keep practicing.

You will find that each layer you release in one area helps you in other areas as well. If you let go of control at work, you can also do that in your relationships. The gist is always the same, remember?

Let it goooooo!

Letting go is an art that you can refine throughout your life. There is no end point, we can always let go of something deeper.

To say it with Elsa from the animated film ‘Frozen’: Let it goooooo!

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With every layer of tension you release, you gain access to a hidden layer of energy and well-being. Do you have any idea how many extra layers of energy and well-being are still waiting for you? Can you imagine how good you would feel learning to tap it?

Do you want to find out? Do you want more relaxation and more energy?

Go on research and make the best choice to take actions….

CHANGE/ADJUST YOUR BELIEFS/LIFESTYLE. . .

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Hello world,

In the so called new normal where COVID-19 is rolling over all screen around the world, we must not forget to pay sufficient attention to ourselves and love once. From my side I went to do some research which I am sharing in this blog item. I do hope that you as reader and follower can find yourself in the different circumstances. I wish you happy reading. It’s all about you yourself and your environment.

FIRST IMPRESSIONS ARE LASTING

If you were raised by parents who continually told you what a good person you were, who loved you, encouraged you, supported you, and believed in you, no matter what you did or didn’t do, you would grow up with the belief that you were a good and valuable person. By the age of three, this belief would lock in and become a fundamental part of the way you view yourself in relation to your world. Thereafter, no matter what happens to you, you would hold to this belief. It would become your reality.

If you were raised by parents who did not know how powerful their words and behaviors could be in shaping your personality, they could very easily have used destructive criticism, disapproval, and physical or emotional punishment to discipline or control you. When a child is continually criticized at an early age, he soon concludes that there is something wrong with him. He doesn’t understand why it is that he is being criticized or punished, but he assumes that his parents know the truth about him, and that he deserves it. He begins to feel that he is not valuable or lovable. He is not worth very much. He must therefore be worthless.

Almost all personality problems in adolescence and adulthood are rooted in what psychologists refer to as love withheld. The child needs love like roses need rain. When children feel unloved, they feel unsafe and insecure. They think, “I’m not good enough.” They begin to engage in compensatory behaviors to make up for this inner anxiety. This sense of love deprivation is manifested in misbehavior, personality problems, bursts of anger, depression, hopelessness, lack of ambition, and problems with people and relationships.

YOU ARE BORN UNAFRAID

The child is born with no fears, except those of falling and loud noises. All other fears have to be taught to the child as he or she grows up.

The two major fears we all develop are the fear of failure or loss and the fear of criticism or rejection. We begin to learn the fear of failure if we are continually criticized and punished when we try some- thing new or different. We are shouted at and told, “No! Get away from there! Stop that! Put that down!” Physical punishment and the withholding of love, possibilities that scare us and make us feel insecure, often accompany these shouts and criticisms.

We soon begin to believe that we are too small, too weak, incompetent, inadequate, and incapable of doing anything new or different. We express this feeling with the words, “I can’t, I can’t, I can’t.” Whenever we think about doing something new or challenging, we automatically respond with feelings of fear, trembling, and a churning stomach. We react exactly as if we are afraid of getting a spanking. We say, “I can’t” over and over.

The fear of failure is the primary reason for failure in adult life. As the result of destructive criticism in childhood, we hold ourselves back as adults. We sell ourselves short. We quit before we even try the ﬁrst time. Instead of using our amazing minds to ﬁgure out how to get what we want, we use our reasoning ability to create reasons why we can’t, and why the things we want are not possible for us.

THE NEED TO BE LOVED

The second major fear that holds us back, undermines our conﬁdence, and destroys our desire for a happy life is the fear of rejection, and its expression, criticism. This emotion is learned in early childhood as the result of our parents expressing disapproval of us whenever we do something they don’t like, or don’t do something that they expect. As a result of our displeasing them, they become angry and withdraw the love and approval we need so much as children.

The fear of being unloved and alone is so traumatic for a child that she soon conforms her behavior to do whatever she thinks her parents will approve of. She loses her spontaneity and uniqueness. She begins to think, “I have to! I have to! I have to!” She concludes, “I have to do whatever Mommy and Daddy want me to, or they won’t love me, and I’ll be all alone!”

CONDITIONAL LOVE

As an adult, a child raised with what is called “conditional love” (as opposed to unconditional love, the greatest gift one person can give to another) becomes hypersensitive to the opinions of others. In its extreme form, he cannot do anything if there is the slightest chance that someone else may not approve. He projects his childhood relationship with his parents onto the important people in his adult life—spouse, boss, relatives, friends, authority ﬁgures—and tries desperately to earn their approval, or at least not lose it.

The fears of failure and rejection, caused by destructive criticism in early childhood, are the root causes of most of our unhappiness and anxiety as adults. We feel, “I can’t!” or “I have to!” continually. The worst feeling is when we feel, “I can’t, but I have to!” or “I have to, but I can’t!”

We want to do something, but we are afraid of failure or loss, or if we are not afraid of loss, we are afraid of disapproval. We want to do something to improve our lives, at work or at home, but we are afraid that we may fail, or that someone else may criticize us, or both.

For most people, their fears govern their lives. Everything they do is organized around avoiding failure or criticism. They think continually about playing it safe, rather than striving for their goals. They seek security rather than opportunity.

DOUBLE YOUR RATE OF FAILURE

Once an author named by Arthur Gordon approached Thomas J. Watson Sr., the founder of IBM, and asked him how he could succeed faster as a writer. Thomas J. Watson, one of the giants of American business, replied with these profound words: “If you want to be successful faster, you must double your rate of failure. Success lies on the far side of failure.”

The fact is that the more you have already failed, the more likely it is you are on the verge of great success. Your failures have prepared you to succeed. This is why a streak of good luck seems to follow a streak of bad luck. When in doubt, “double your rate of failure. ”The more things you try, the more likely you are to triumph. You overcome your fears only by doing the thing you fear until the fear has no more control over you.

YOUR MENTAL HARD DRIVE

Everything you know about yourself, all your beliefs, are recorded on the hard drive of your personality, in your self-concept. Your self-concept precedes and predicts your levels of performance and effectiveness in everything you do. Because of the law of correspondence, you always behave on the outside in a manner consistent with your self-concept on the inside. All improvement in your life therefore begins with an improvement in your self-concept.

You have an overall self-concept that is made up of all your beliefs about yourself and your abilities. This bundle of beliefs includes all the experiences, decisions, successes, failures, ideas, information, emotions, and opinions of your life up to now. This general self-concept determines how and what you think and feel about yourself, and measures how well you are doing in general.

YOUR MINI-SELF-CONCEPTS

You have a series of “mini-self-concepts” as well. These mini-self- concepts combine to make up your overall self-concept. You have a self-concept for every area of your life that you consider important. This mini-self-concept determines how you think, feel, and perform in that area.

For example, you have a self-concept for how healthy and ﬁt you are, and how much you eat or exercise. You have a self-concept for how likable and popular you are with others, especially with members of the opposite sex. You have a self-concept for what kind of a spouse or parent you are, for how good a friend you are to your friends, how smart you are, and how well you learn. You have a self- concept for every sport you play, and for every activity you engage in, including how well you drive your car.

You have a self-concept for how well you do your work, and for how well you do each part of your work. You have a self- concept for how much money you make and how well you save and invest it. This is a critical area. The fact is that you can never earn much more or less than your self-concept level of income. If you want to make more money, you have to change your beliefs about yourself relative to income and money.

CHANGE YOUR BELIEFS

In every case, if you want to change your performance and your results in any area of your life, you have to change your self- concept—or your beliefs about yourself—for that area. Fortunately, your beliefs are largely subjective. They are not always based on facts. Instead, they are based largely on information you have taken in and accepted as true, sometimes with very little evidence or proof.

The very worst beliefs you can have are self-limiting beliefs of any kind. These are beliefs about yourself that cause you to feel somehow limited or deﬁcient in a particular area. These beliefs are seldom true, but if you accept them as valid estimates of your ability, they become true for you, exactly as if they were correct.

The starting point of unlocking your potential, and accomplishing more than you ever have before, is for you to challenge your self- limiting beliefs. You begin this process of freeing yourself from self-limiting beliefs by imagining that, whatever they are, they are completely untrue. Imagine for the moment that you have no limitations on your abilities at all. Imagine that you could be, do, or have anything you really wanted in life. Imagine that your potential is unlimited in any way. For example, imagine that you could be earning twice as much as you are earning today. Imagine that you could be living in a bigger house, driving a better car, and enjoying a more expensive lifestyle.

Imagine that you have the ability to be one of the top people in your ﬁeld. Imagine that you are one of the most popular, powerful, and persuasive personalities in your social and business world. Imagine that you are calm, conﬁdent, and unafraid of anything. Imagine that you could set and achieve any goal you put your mind to. This is how you begin changing your thinking and changing your life.

The starting point of eliminating your fears, and releasing your potential, is to reprogram your mental hard drive with new, positive, constructive, and courageous beliefs about yourself and your future. I really hope that you learned something more now you have read this blog.

Feel free to drop me your comments and maybe your very own COVID-19 lifestyle experiences. It will be highly appreciated. Thank you in advanced. Stay Safe and Blessings.

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Trend watching 2020 – 2030

A as blogger and also a trend watcher, I would like to share some information what might happen in the future. The period is between 2020 – 2030. Step in the tele time travel machine and press the red button. Fly with me into the future. . .

2018 Free TrendWatching Resources | Retailing: From A to Z

The year is 2020

Microsoft is ending support for Windows 7

Global Politics, Generation X is reshaping this

The first stem cell therapy for congestive heart failure will be exposed

Progress with longevity extension

First orbital test flight of the SpaceX Starship is a fact

Mercury pollution is going down

Glacier National Park will become ice-free and also some other regions

UK’s new aircraft carriers are reaching full operational capability

Follow the Planet Mars 2020 rover mission

England’s Coastal Path will be opened to walkers

Launching of Playstation 5

5th Chang’e lunar exploration mission

Ariane 6 first flight

Big conjunction

The internet will reach 5 billion users worldwide

The Year is 2021

Exascale computers are deployed

Touchdown of the Exomars rover on Mars

Launching of the James Webb Space Telescope

1^st unscrewed maiden flight of NASA’s SLS (Space Launch System)

1^st flight of the New Glenn reusable rocket

Opening of Crossrail in UK/London

Southwest USA water crisis

Japan/Tokyo hosts the Olympic Games

Re-emerging of the largest insect swarm in the world

5-year survival rates for breast cancer are approaching one hundred percent

Birth control pills for male are entering the market

The world’s 1^st artificial kidney will be a fact

Launching of the flying car Terrafugia TF-X

China’s plan to it’s first mission to Mars

Arabian mission to planet Mars

India on the run for their first manned space flight

The year is 2022

• India becomes the most populous country on Earth

• The ITER experimental fusion reactor is switched on

• Germany phases out nuclear energy

• Beijing hosts the Winter Olympics

• Completion of the Northeast Corridor high-speed train upgrade

• Qatar hosts the FIFA World Cup

• China’s first space station is complete

• New Horizons completes its study of the Kuiper Belt

• The AIDA mission arrives at Didymos

• The Dark Ages Radio Explorer (DARE) is launched

• The X-59 Quiet SuperSonic Transport is tested over U.S. cities

• Water is becoming a weapon of war

• Global reserves of antimony are running out

• Driverless hover-taxis are operational in Dubai

• VIPER mission to the lunar south pole

The year is 2023

Xi Jinping extends his presidency

• The Aerion AS2 supersonic jet enters service

• The Large Synoptic Survey Telescope begins full operations

• First crewed flight of NASA’s Orion spacecraft

• Mars sample return mission

• Asteroid sample return mission

• The Hinkley Point C nuclear power station is operational

• The Type 26 Global Combat Ship enters service

• Turkey celebrates its 100th anniversary as an independent republic

• Completion of the London “super sewer”

• Brain implants to restore lost memories

• Luna 27 lands on the far side of the Moon

• Driverless high-speed trains begin operating in France

• Completion of the Stad Ship Tunnel

• Launch of the SPHEREx mission

The Year is 2024

Vladimir Putin steps down as President of Russia

• Open-source, 3D printed clothes at near-zero cost

• The Thirty Metre Telescope is fully operational

• Indonesia gets a new capital city

• Total solar eclipse across North America

• Euro 2024 is hosted by Germany

• Paris hosts the Summer Olympic Games

• Lunar Mission One drills into the Moon’s south pole

• Bio-electronics for treating arthritis are in common use

• Carsharing has exploded in popularity

• Wind turbine drone inspection is a multi-billion dollar industry

• Starlink reaches full capacity

• The first probe to fly into the Sun’s outer atmosphere

The year is 2025

A billion human genomes have been sequenced

• Human brain simulations are becoming possible

• 3D-printed human organs

• China is becoming highly urbanised

• Vertical farms are common in cities

• Solid waste is reaching crisis levels

• Kivalina has been inundated

• Completion of the East Anglia Zone

• The UK phases out coal power

• The European Extremely Large Telescope is operational

• The Giant Magellan Telescope is fully operational

• The first test flight of the Skylon spaceplane

• The first manned flights from Russia’s new spaceport

• High speed rail networks are being expanded in many countries

• A comprehensive overhaul of the U.S. airspace system is complete

• Railguns are in use by the U.S. navy

• The global crowdfunding market reaches $100bn

• BepiColombo arrives in orbit around Mercury

The year is 2026

• A synthetic human genome is completed

• Aquaculture provides the majority of the world’s seafood

• The High Luminosity Large Hadron Collider (HL-LHC) is operational

• The International Linear Collider is completed

• 3-D printed electronic membranes to prevent heart attacks

• Youthful regeneration of aging heart muscle via GDF-11

• New treatments for Alzheimer’s disease

• Rising sea levels are wreaking havoc on the Maldives

• Global reserves of indium are running out

• Italy hosts the Winter Olympics

• Construction of the Sagrada Família is complete

• Robotic hands matching human capabilities

• The FIFA World Cup is hosted jointly in Canada, Mexico and the United States

• Mars Science Laboratory is shutting down

• 50TB hard drives

The year is 2027

The BRICs overtake the G7 nations

• Light-duty hydrogen fuel cell vehicles reach 1 million in annual sales

• Tokyo and Nagoya are connected by high-speed maglev

• Carbon sequestration is underway in many nations

• The Venera-D mission arrives at Venus

• The asteroid 1999 AN10 makes a close approach

• The Square Kilometre Array begins science operations

• The Europa Clipper arrives in orbit

• The autopsy report for Elvis Presley is made public

• Opening of the New Central Polish Airport

• The final Avatar movie is released

The year is 2028

• Completion of the Deep Space Gateway

• Launch of the European ATHENA X-ray observatory

• China builds the world’s largest particle accelerator

• Printed electronics are ubiquitous

• The UK population reaches 70m

• British newspapers are going out of circulation

• Launch of the ARIEL spacecraft

• Launch of the Comet Interceptor

• Delhi becomes the most populous city in the world

• Los Angeles hosts the Summer Olympic Games

• Total solar eclipse in Australia and New Zealand

• Resurrection of several extinct species has been achieved

• The International Space Station is decommissioned

The year is 2029

• Human-like AI is becoming a reality

• Increased automation of banking

• Close approach of the near-Earth asteroid Apophis

• Mass application of gene drives on mosquitoes

• Global reserves of silver are running out

• Finland bans coal for energy use

• Madagascar’s radiated tortoise is extinct in the wild

• Phase 1 of the California High-Speed Rail line is complete

• Expansion of London’s Heathrow Airport

• Jupiter’s Great Red Spot is disappearing

• The wreck of the Titanic has decomposed

The year is 2030

Global population is reaching crisis point

• The 6G standard is released

• Desalination has exploded in use

• “Smart grid” technology is widespread in developed nations

• An interstellar message arrives at Luyten’s Star

• Depression is the number one global disease burden

• Child mortality is approaching 2% globally

• The Muslim population has increased significantly

• Full weather modelling is perfected

• Orbital space junk is becoming a major problem for space flight

• Jupiter Icy Moon Explorer (JUICE) reaches the Jovian system

• The UK space industry has quadrupled in size

• The Lockheed Martin SR-72 enters service

• A new generation of military helicopters

• Hyper-fast crime scene analysis

• Half of America’s shopping malls have closed

• Emerging job titles of today

• Cargo Sous Terrain becomes operational in Switzerland

• The entire ocean floor is mapped

I really hope that you are now well informed what the coming years as full off to take place with the right circumstances. If you like this blog just drop your comments.

If you would like to know what will take place between 2031 and 2040 keep coming back to this website. I have search it out already for you to update.

Lessons for Dynamic Leaders during the Corona Crisis

Due to the corona crisis, many young leaders are struggling with a sense of unrest. In this blog I like to share with you some very important point you can apply in your daily routine to the current challenges.

With a good mindset this will surely help you to travel more working miles.

The following points are very handy for young leaders but also for everyone who is leading and is in the plan to start leading.
Remember that we are all from diverse ideas and sectors. We are all in a volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous world which is changing rapidly.
After all, we are not alone in this struggle, and with this information you will get a strong sense of freedom of choice in your life, whatever the situation you are facing.

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1: Make a distinction between what you do or do not control

At any time of the day, there are an infinite number of things that are out of your control, at the same time there are things that you do have control over. How well can you make a distinction here? How often do you ask yourself this question? And where do you invest all your attention, life force and energy in? Nowadays it is too easy to get distracted by all the things you have no control over, while you could have used the 24 hours of the day for anything you could have made a positive difference: for yourself, your family, teams , community and everything else that is dear to you.

2: Invest in, and be careful with your buffer of positivity

How easy or difficult do you make it for yourself to build up a buffer of positivity to better deal with the inevitable setbacks in life? How well do you know what gives you a positive kick in life, not because it was talked about by others, but because you really feel it yourself? When you hear a negative message, how do you prevent it from seeming unnecessarily worse than it actually is? How critically do you assess your initial interpretation of the topic (personal or impersonal), the magnitude of the problem (large or small), and the temporality (long or short)? And when everything seems to go wrong, how well do you manage to build up your buffer with a feeling of gratitude for moments from the past?

3: Focus on talents that energize you

There are some skills you are not good at, and there are skills that you are better at. There are skills that do not energize you, and there are skills that do energize you. How well do you know yourself in this regard? How can you use your talented people more often per week, and make your environment aware so that you don’t question skills that cost you energy? Which hidden talents that give you energy would you like to develop further at work and beyond?

4: Care about yourself and others

How do others know that you are there for them, especially in difficult times? When someone shares a problem, do you only address the words the other person is saying, or do you also pay attention to the underlying emotional message (s)? How well can you place these feelings in the context of the other person’s life? How do you ensure that you keep your attention with the other person and not let the conversation be hijacked by yourself or others who have had a similar experience? How do you let yourself experience that you are not alone and that there are others who care about you?

5: Find meaning in everyday moments

From building something important for society to preventing something unwanted from private, how well can you see every moment of the day you are contributing? “Those who have a why have can (almost) any how endure “has the same physical act another inner experience entail depend on the meaning can you give it Unlike simple times have difficult moments often extra chances meaning to find.: courage, patience, wisdom, compassion, and other personal qualities can only grow stronger when tested

6: Celebrate successes with every step

In uncertain times, the finish line is not always in sight, and there is a lack of prospect of improvement in the short term. Plans change, and a lot of (knowledge) work is not immediately visible or tangible. In addition, if the elements of the previous lessons are missing, it can be easy to lose the motivation to continue. That is why it is extra important to clarify and celebrate every step forward. This can be done with others or alone. This can be planned or spontaneous. This can be big or small. Looking back at the week, it is quite clear what went wrong, but how often do you also think about what did work? What went easier than expected? And how do you set the bar for success at the right height, so that it is high enough to mean something, but also accessible enough to experience?

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